im stuck in a dead end realtionship that my ex is dieing to get out he doesnt want the baby and he wants to move on with his life...i on the other hand feel that if i do have this child it will be extremmly difficult on me and i have no one esle to support me i want to have an abortion and move on with my life until i get married and deffinatley know there is a way i can support a child ...im 25 ....what should i do???
2007-07-08 12:56:17 · 33 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i know he is not the one for me and he will never marry me
2007-07-08 12:59:12 · update #1
There is a purpose for the child, its not their fault their parents weren't meant to be together. Have you considered adoption?
2007-07-08 13:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mr & Mrs G 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
What to do has to be completely up to you, no one can make a decision like this for you. Personally I think abortion is wrong and would never do it myself if I were in your situation. However I can also understand why someone would have an abortion. If you think that your going to have an extremely difficult time taking care of this child then you should give abortion and adoption some thought. While I do think abortion is wrong I also think that it isn't at all good to bring a child an already unstable situation. Where they might not be cared for as well as they should be. To many kids now days end up like this and miss out on having a good childhood and sometimes leading into having a pretty mixed up life themselves. So think about what is right for you and the baby, and if you do choose to have an abortion don't let others make you feel bad about it.
Adoption is another thing you should think about although once the baby is born and in your arms your it'll probably be even harder to let of him/her. But at least they would have a chance at life rather than no chance at all.
2007-07-08 13:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Chihiro00 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that in this instance, you should keep the baby. Its not hi/her fault that you're in the predicament you're in.
And, who's to say you won't find someone who will cherish your child as if s/he was his own in the future. Its one thing being a father, but a completely different thing being a dad.
Think of it this way: the baby you carry is a personality, character, life and love all rolled into one and waiting to come out to meet you. Be proud of the fact that you can find the strength to go on by yourself, even without the numb-nuts that calls himself the father.
Having a child is very difficult on EVERY woman who's ever had kids, but its a difficulty you treasure.
Take support from friends, or if you have nobody to really lean on, then find other mothers in your area by going to the local parent and toddler group....pregnant mums go to them before their babies are born to get to know the other mums and build new friendships.
But don't have an abortion-in the case it would be wrong. You can do this, you're not a naive teenager, you're a woman now and a lot stronger than you first thought. Start looking at the situation more for what it is, rather than how you'd want it to be, you'll be fine. xxx
2007-07-08 13:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by Loulla 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is what your head tells you to do. Only you know if it is ok with you or not. You are right without support it will be very difficult for you and your child. Don't allow other people to make you feel guilty for your decision making. It's your body and you have to do what you think best. Either way you decide, it is something that you will never forget.. If you get your abortion make sure that you go to a very good doctor because having this done wrongly can cause problems in pregnancy at another time.
2007-07-08 13:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by oldone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right or Wrong is a very personal opinion. I, personally, believe its wrong. Why kill the baby? Carry it through the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption. The baby will live, you'll be "off the hook", and a family who WANTS a baby can finally have one. Yeah, you'll have to go through the discomforts of pregnancy, but it was your mistake getting pregnant. Don't punish the baby. Maybe after carrying the baby full-term and having more time to get on your own two feet, you'll realize you DO want this baby. You'll always regret an abortion no matter what other option you choose. You're 25, you should be on your own two feet by now anyway. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-08 13:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether you feel abortion is wrong is totally up to you. As for your ex, its probably a good idea that you're finding out about ways. Instead of struggling with a decision on abortion, have your baby and do the best that you can to raise him or her.
If you decide to have the baby, make sure your ex is at least financially responsible for the child and not just you. Take him to family court and request child support immediately.
2007-07-08 13:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Phade3 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay I understand that you may be scared and this is very usual when it comes to the choice of keeping a child and a dead beat man but being 25 has nothing to do with it, either you are mature and responsible or your not. I agree with the person below me you made the choice to have sex with this man and you created this child so now I feel you must deal with it. I'll give you something better I am now 20 years old and I had my daughter when I was 19, when she wa sixth month I moved out got a job, and got married. I wasn't ready for her but I made myself ready because that is what being responsible is about. Make the right decision because you may not have a second chance to make this decision again. Just think about it.
2007-07-08 13:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by dcj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give the child up for adoption at least you will not have a life long abortion on your conscience. I was adopted and so was my Brother. My brothers mother was 13 years old and raped she was a very strong women to give him up for adoption she could have Easily aborted him but choose to give something good out of something bad that happened to her. If she was Strong enough at the age of 13 to make the right choice I am sure you can do it too!!!! It will be tough but If you think having an abortion is the easy way out it's not you will be affected by it the rest of your life!!!!!!!!! God Bless you if are a believer in the Lord make the right decision!!!!!!!!
2007-07-08 13:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by ON FIRE 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please, there are too many people out there that want kids and can't have them. Have the baby and give it up for adoption so that all those good people out there can have a child of their own to love. You can have this child and still give it a good life without killing it. You'll probably feel better if adoption is the path that you choose to go on instead of abortion.
2007-07-08 13:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by April D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rainity. i think of your sister will remorseful approximately haveing an abortion for something of her existence! it is going to continuously be on her concepts, continuously! She would desire to have the toddler, it is a toddler! Then, provide the toddler up for adoption impressive away, if she and or your mom sense which you would be able to no longer look after the toddler. it is an exceedingly severe rely. A childs existence is interior the steadiness. She have been given pregnant, she became into irresponsible. The least she would desire to do is do the to blame ingredient and have the toddler, and supply it up for adoption if she won't be able to take care of raiseing the toddler. I advise she check along with her pastor, minister, quickly. Bertram Vancouver Canada
2016-12-10 06:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only person who can make this decision is you. but if you do not have an abortion and dont feel like you can raise the child there are so many families out there looking for healthy babies to adopt.
2007-07-08 13:09:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋