well ok here it goes weve been hangin out a lot lately, and been spending nights with him in his apartment, we had sex, cuddled and all that, he caresses my hair, likes me to sleep on his chest but the thin is... well he told me that "were just friends right?" i'm like "yeah why did u ask?" he said "well i just wanna make sure" and prior to that he told me that he doesnt date people from work (he's my cowoker as well) i told my friends and theyre like so what are you guys doing if your not dating? just hanging out?! whatever! lol anyway i like him but i have my mind over my heart so i dont think i will fall for him.. i think i just have to go with the flow and enjoy being with him.. help people what does he think of me? why did he say that? thanks a lot
2007-07-08 12:54:11 · 12 answers · asked by psychotiko 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He obviously doesn't want to commit to you, and very probably not to anyone. He also obviously LIKES you well enough to hang out. And nothing he's said shows different, or can be interpreted to indicate what he thinks of you. Honest, man, your question makes you sound like a high-school girl! Stop that!
In fact, you obviously want him to declare he loves you, is committed to you, or something like that. If you ask him to do that, he'll run like a wounded faun. (Yes, spelling intentional.) So if you want to have him as just a friend "with benefits," good. Stop right there, because it's all you're going to get, at least for the foreseeable future.
If you want a husband or husband-equivalent, look elsewhere--and when you find Mr. Right, negotiate whether you get to keep Mr. Right-Now or not. Heck, you may find out that Mr. R is into threesomes and thinks Mr. R-N is hot!
2007-07-08 13:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to rape someone is not friendly behavior no matter who does it. If he trusts and values you as a friend, he needs to treat you better, and if he wants to experiment with being hetero with you, that is a mutual issue for both of you to give serious thought to. You can set a limit on what he does physically based on your own desires and integrity. It must be disappointing to not feel safe with your friend. If the friendship has a strong basis, you two will work it out. If not, this guy is doing things that probably would make you uncomfortable in a straight guy, too, right? That's not the right way to treat a friend or a lover. If you do decide to experiment with him, please use birth control AND a barrier contraceptive (condom). Gay people don't flame me, this is from a gay person who knows statistics, and wants young people to be careful, not a bigot.
2016-05-17 05:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE dating, and I'm not sure that either one of you realized it. Maybe I'm one of the old school fags, but if you're hanging out a lot, having sex, and spending the night together, you're more than friends.
2007-07-08 12:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by nr347 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're just friends is kinda lame isn't it.
I wouldn't sleep with all my friends just the one who actually matters, not that the rest don't in a different way.
2007-07-08 14:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by DeathsToy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical case of male fear of commitment. Yeah, gay males have it too. They must, they are men. Oh no, I'm a broken record!
2007-07-08 13:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Johanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't you be more than friends before having sex ? really don't have sex with just anyone, make it special and only go with those who treat you like you matter. sex is more than just an act of pleasure and it's always better with someone who means something. either he likes you or he's just using you, require respect and more from those you share yourself with you deserve better.
2007-07-08 12:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by ?! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your co-worker/friend is just interested in being friends and an occassional roll in the hay. And at least he is being up front about it.
So, you know where he stands....it's not like he does not like you, it's just he is not interested in getting serious with you.
So, you accept the terms or you move on.
2007-07-08 13:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise is he likes you but doesn't want to commit. My second peice would be to make him jealous ... date someone if he doesn't respond then he doesn't like you that way if he does then he does like you ... force him to action.
2007-07-08 13:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you had sex with him and you are JUST friends, yeah, totally believe it...not
2007-07-08 13:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not like you in affectionate sense.
2007-07-08 12:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by salim a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋