can you believe in the love of someone that hurts you by cheating ?

Answer 1

Heck no!

Answer 2

I believe people make mistakes, some times (more often then we care to admit) the mistake is the ONE... the only mistake that is more unforgivable then any other "Cheating".

I also feel cheating is widely misunderstood, in the way that people mistake it for lack of sex, or boredom in sex. This is a misunderstanding because often times cheaters do so because they are lacking something, and it isn't always sex.
In some cases a person might feel their partner is not very understanding, hence opening up to another whom comforts them to the point of no return "Cheating".

while it is true that you can completely love a person and still cheat on them (for what ever reason), it is also true that better judgment would have prevented such actions.
for example, if I truly love you then perhaps I would not have been in a situation where Cheating was possible, however on another note we cant predict every situation.

your question can only be answered by you. Do you feel he really, truly made a mistake? and still loves you completely?

Answer 3

Cheating is not always about not being in love. You can still love someone, but not be happy in the relationship. If you've drifted apart, there may be a personal need that isn't being fulfilled. It doesn't even have to be about sex, but the affair may have eventually led to that. Imagine if you were in a relationship where the other person was distant, or always angry. You still love that person, but start to feel lonely, or even mistreated. Suddenly you meet someone that sweeps you off your feet. In your lonely, depressed, state you acting like a person starving, suddenly placed in front of a buffet. You are so desperate for that attention, you take it where ever you find it. Your partner hasn't realized the impact of their actions and is horribly hurt by the affair. But, you still love them.

It's not hard to imagine, is it?

Answer 4

They might love you - and this might be true. But if they are cheating, they are dividing that love and that will soon lead to disaster.

People hurt the ones they love all the time. And if you didn't love them, it wouldn't hurt!

I'd get out as soon as possible, they may love you, but they have lousy boundaries and they don't respect you in the least. They are the sort of person that acts impulsively on their feelings, not using their heads to make good decisions.

This will come up over and over again in any sort of decision making in the future.

That sort of love doesn't count. A relationship needs to be built on far more than 'love'.

Answer 5

I say no.

When I was younger...in my teens...I used to get over stuff easier. Now that I am older (and probably a bit more wiser), it takes me longer to recover from pains caused by others.

I loved a man, who cheated on me not once, but twice. The second time, because of the involved circumstances, it hurt really badly, and I still almost a year later have never quite completely recovered from the blow.

They say the first time it happens to you, you're ignorant. The second time you are just plain dumb.

Answer 6

Love means you are with ONE person. You focus all your time and energy in ONE person. If he cheats then he obviously doesn't love you. dont waste your time, you will end up getting hurt. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

Answer 7

Yes, because you are thinking of the past things that make that person the perfect soul mate. However, since they spoil that image you hope to turn that person back to that charming mate. Although, you wish to believe they will change you need to make your decision based on them deceiving you which is facts not on feelings of LOVE. This works in your benefit on working to keep a healthy relationship and keeping a well balances self-esteem.

Answer 8

As a man, it always feels good to be needed. A man can also be very needy. Any man can come up with reasons why he cheats. But only a real man knows the reason why he doesn't have to. You always have a choice.

Answer 9

I've seen marriages that have healed after suffering infidelity. Both parties need to be willing to address all the issues and be willing to forgive, change & move on.

The couple needs counseling to get through it but it's possible.

Now...if the couple isn't married, I'd say move on apart, but if they're married try to make a go of it.
SG

Answer 10

no. cheating isn't a good way to prove someone's love. they shouldn't do that because the person who they really love's feelings would get hurt and they'd probably both be sad if they break up.

Answer 11

no u can't. if they cheated on u they weren't thinking of u they are focused on the other person. they may come back and profess their love especially if things did not work out for them, but no they couldn't love u if they cheated on u.