In the past, my cousin and I have been super competitive. I have recently decided to try to really find myself, become less competitive and less sneaky-she however has not.
For instance- I will just do things out in the open, but she will always try to hide things. We were all going to an event last week and I noticed that she hid her dress in the kitchen so I would not see it (no other reason to do so). She trys to avoid me knowing what she is doing, but she still keeps in eye on my affairs i.e.- I have recently started working out really hard and watching my weight, and low and behold she is now doing the same thing (no- she was never doing it before or really voiced a concern about her weight). It sounds petty, but it is kind of annoying. If I try talking to her, she will ignore it. Any ideas as to what I should do to deal with her. (we are very close and I would like it to stay that way.)
2007-07-08 12:20:44 · 4 answers · asked by breezy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think your cousin is not forcing you to compete with her; you choose to compete. You started by stating that you were both super competitive and you have chosen not to do that anymore. And that is all you need to do. Your cousin might think you are both still competitors, hence all the antics you now find annoying and irritating.If she continues to imitate all the things that you do, consider it flattering, voice no negative comments. and continue to do the things you want .It is possible after a while, when she notices that you are no longer paying any more attention to her, it just might come to an end. In the meantime, don't allow this to get in the way of you guys remaining close cousins.Speak to her about matters that have nothing to do with your so- called rivalry and only on common and family issues----okay. It will turn out alright.
2007-07-09 15:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try not to compete. I hate people like that.
2007-07-08 22:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by beckaanne2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would be flattered that she feels the need to compete with you. some people just are that way. i would just kepp being yourself and not let her get to you.
2007-07-08 19:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one's ever been able to force me to do anything.
i think you need to reorder your priorities.
2007-07-08 19:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋