My fiance and i plan on marrying next year , but for some reason his family doesn't like me , and that hurts alot cause family means alot to me ,he doesn't care about his family and tells me not to worry about his family and that they will come around some day ....
2007-07-08 12:18:53 · 13 answers · asked by haitian1007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd get married if I felt like he and I were ready. Sometimes families don't really know the person that they are related to. If he puts on a different face for his family than he doesn't for his friends and personal life then they don't really know him and are assuming that you aren't a good match for the person they want him to be or think he is. Don't stress about his family they just need to let go of who he used to be and who they wish he was and then they will see that you are a great match for who he really is!!!
2007-07-08 12:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they might come around but don't count on it.
Think about a dozen times before getting married if they don't like you. One way to make it work would be if you were to move away from his family.
We live 2/3 of the way across the nation from our families & it's been a great thing for our marriage. We don't have people butting in anymore & don't have family stress typically.
You don't just marry the person, though, you marry the whole family. Having in-laws who don't like you will wear on you.
SG
2007-07-08 12:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the love of my life over 40 yr ago. Neither set of parents approved. But... we were both 25 yr old and knew what we wanted. My family has refused to have any contact with us since then. Her family argued and fought with us until the day they died. We do not regret our decision for one moment. We have "adopted" grandparents, aunts an uncles, and we could pick ones we wanted, or more importantly, wanted us. Our holiday house was filled with "relatives" who loved us and there wasn't a blood relative in the house.
I would not give the same advice to teenagers. But if you are old enough to really know what you want, then go for it.
2007-07-08 12:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the record, they probably WON'T come around, and if they do, there will be too much history to forgive and forget.
If you marry him, you have to accept that you're marrying his family, too - good or bad. If you can't deal with them not liking you, then move on. Lots of married couples deal with this problem.
2007-07-08 12:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes and yes. I did, 22 yrs ago. Now he complains that his family likes me more than him. He is right!!! At some point you and he have to live for yourselves. If there really is no reason. Go for it. You are not marrying his family. Be happy. Let it go.
2007-07-08 12:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that family is important, but you aren't marrying his family. You are marrying him because you love him and he loves you. Don't worry about what his family thinks, they will come around eventually. Congrats.
2007-07-08 12:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its sad that his family doesn't like you. Its their loss, and I also believe that they will come around sooner or later. Hey, do whatever makes you guys happy. After all you are going to marry him not his family.
2007-07-08 12:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do have a reason they dont like you. i dont know what it is but before the wedding you need to come to terms with his family or else ur whole marriage is going to be hell because his parents are going to do w.e they can to not include u in family events. just deal with it now so u guys can be happy and no problems.
2007-07-08 12:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Siroonig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but his family may never "come around". Be prepared for that and be willing to deal with it for the rest of your life. Hopefully they will come around, but there is no guarantee so make sure you're prepared & willing to deal with it.
2007-07-08 12:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and he loves you ...then marry each other cuz take it from me I used to take care of my now mother in law in the nursing rehab center and she would always tell me to date her son...well i wasnt interested at the time. she now is doing fine and i was friends with his sister....up until 2006 when we started to date and 4 months later we got married and they have hated me ever since. so matter what happends the in laws are always gonna say " she is not good enough for him" so marry that man honey and show everyone you two are happy........and rub it in there face...so every chance you get kiss and hug....and say i love you ....
2007-07-08 12:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋