I've been married for 5 years now, and my husband moved to a different town and state for a better paying job to support our family, but because of some other issues with my family. I am not able to move there with him yet. But I feel as though I'm being pushed to the side. He has never been this distant before. Do you have any ideas on what I could do? I am taking care of an ailing parent and I'm not able to travel, nor do I have the funds to hire a private investigator. I just really need some ideas?
2007-07-08 12:09:12 · 8 answers · asked by PinWheels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is hard to be away from a loved one, I have the same thing, with my husband being gone and away,you really have to have faith and trust, I am strong and would never stray even because we are apart for weeks at a time, while he is working, Do I like him being away from the family?No I do not, and hopefully there are ways to get him closer if i can, at the same time, he has to trust me, I have to trust him we can not follow our spouses every minute, or day, and all, and they could or we could always have the chance to stray, sneaking up will cause more friction and lead them that way if your not careful,
2007-07-08 13:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by soccermom3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living apart is a definite difficulty for a marriage. I wouldn't worry so much about catching him if he's cheating than to find a way to come back to living together. Is there a way you can cut expenses or increase income in another area so he would be able to take a lesser-paying job and move back home? Actually instead of asking IF there's a way...work to find the way that it can work (it's amazing how different results can be found by simply asking "how" to do something rather than "if" something is possible).
So...find a way to live together again!
SG
2007-07-08 12:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur story and mine r exactly the same. I was in that situation three years ago. Read my story u will find out more and other suggestion.
The only suggestion that i could offer to u is ..find the way to be around him, if not eventually he'll be with someone else.
Don't get me wrong, not every men are like that. Only some, but there are still millions of gentlement out there. Or u can check on his fone bills to find out. Hire a private investigator that's find too. Either way work for ya. Good luck
2007-07-08 12:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Forgive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop this. You want ideas to spy on your husband? Sounds like HE is the one that shouldn't trust YOU, not the other way around. Do you have no faith in him or in the vows that you both took? Maybe he's being distant because he feels like you don't have time for him - you're caring for a sick parent, perhaps he feels you have enough on your plate and he's trying not to be a burden.
If you spy on him, he'll find out. And then you'll be alone, which you'll deserve.
2007-07-08 12:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a voice activated tape recorder and when he comes for a weekend put it where he spends a lot of time like in the car.Put it under his seat and if he calls someone it will pick it up.When you take a shower put it by the phone. If he is seeing someone he will call her when every he can.One thing you better be sure you want to know because thinking it and knowing it is totally different and there is no turning back once you find out so you better be really sure of this.
2007-07-08 12:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can have a true friend that he doesn't know go over there and try to suduce him. If he does try to do something then maybe he is doing something with someone already. And if he is not then maybe he is waiting for the oppurtunity.
2007-07-08 12:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Christina G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get there
question him and if he starts getting nervous kick his @$$ JK LOL
SORRY i gess that might not be good advice to give!!!
2007-07-08 12:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a relative to check out the situation
2007-07-08 12:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With a 'Booby Trap' LOL! sorry. . .
2007-07-08 12:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋