Strange feeling about friends?

Question

Lately I have started feeling weird. I am in a perfectly happy relationship with my boy friend and we are soon going to celebrate our first anniversary together.
I have started thinking about life before I had a boyfriend. He is my first boyfriend and I'm 16. I and my friends used to hang out do such fun stuff together but nowadays I feel as though I'm in a barrier bound by love. I don't understand this. I feel as though I want to go back in the time where I was single and tension free with no restrictions and just thinking about yourself and stuff.
I don't want to break up with my boyfriend coz he'z a perfect sweetheart and I dont wana break his heart but I know that all those good times cant come back with him in my life as he was not a part of my friend circle. I feel as though I dont wana b in a relationship anymore and just want to be free and have the freedom to do anything I wish. What should I do? If you suggest breaking up with my boyfriend how shud I do it?

Answer 1

Nope sounds like you've got a good guy there, but of course hitlers friends thought he was a good guy.... anyways. What your dealing with is the stupid commonly excepted ideal that when we start a relationship with someone, ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS STOP. That there is the biggest destroyor of relationships this world has ever known. See you can't end your life just because you have a boyfriend (no matter how perfect he is) and start a new one. That whats killing you, you know. It isn't that you can't go out, its that you can't choose to go out. It isn't because your friends are gone from you, but that you have to act like they are. It isn't that your old life died, but that you have to pretend like it did. See this isn't what relationship were met to be, there met to be a BINDING OF TWO LIVES!!! A MERGING of two distinct people and hunnie you are your friends, they define you. So I don't care how great this relationship is you just betraied yourself and your friends to be with this guy, GOOD JOB! Sorry its just we all have a tendency to do this and you have two fixes. Three maybe. One, you guys start seeing your old friends, alone, together it shouldn't matter, and not all the time just bring them into your guys world! Second, make new friends you both can love and cherish and make a new life of sorts. Thrid realize that your both screwing up this relationship by following everyone else led, do you know that path also leds to a 3/4 divorce rate? Find your own path and don't follow the ones before you this is a different world. Let you friends in darnit!!!!! If there good people they can only help. What hurts me the most thou about what you said in there was "If you suggest breaking up with my boyfriend how shud I do it?" That there shows me that in the end you loved your old life ("feel for" non of those stupid romanic notions please) then you do for your new life with him. Maybe just realize this there is no reason to change yourself, your life, your beliefs, YOU, for ANYONE! Your paying for it now, it doesn't matter for who, in the end only one person pays for us not loving ourselves, and that just us, just the individual. This relationship if you didn't lie about him is definely savagable, so don't be asking how to leave this guy, that just t's me off. Just make a life you guys can feel comfrontable with and understand if you really do have such a great relationship then you should also have a great life along with it, good luck!