is it normal for a guy to cheat during/after the birth of his 1st child? to me it means he is totally out of love with his wife (not to mention respect). but a friend of mine says they do it because they are stressed about the new situation. but I say she is an idiot. what do you say?
2007-07-08 11:38:34 · 28 answers · asked by sarah kay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it is not normal! I've had 3 kids and nobody had to cheat.
That guy will find any excuse to cheat on his wife.
He is inmature, selfish and a stone cold loser...
He's stressed out???????? well guess what she is the one giving birth and caring the baby for 9 months come on give me a break.
Idiot and stupid too.
2007-07-08 12:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something very similar to this situation when I was pregnant with my first child. My husband would point out other woman to me that he thought were attractive when I felt like the good year blimp. It really hurt me cause I thought I should've been the most attractive woman in the world to him being that I was carrying his first born child, but obviously his mind was somewhere else at the time. I believe that when any person cheats, it's a sign that the relationship isn't all it was thought to be. My husband and I recently got divorced and it was confirmed that he did cheat on me while I was pregnant and most likely after that, too. And let me tell you, since he left, i've been a much happier, healthier person cause I don't feel like I come in second place anymore. If this question is about you personally, this is my advice. If he's cheating on your or has in the past, you need to do something about it now before things get too out of hand and you end up getting hurt any worse. I hope things work out of you...just hang in there and be strong. Good luck!
2007-07-08 18:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one rule and one rule only, if you are in love, you dont cheat, thats that, I've known men who have cheated when their wives were actually in hospital giving birth, and let me tell you those marriages are now over, if hes a real man he will want to protect his wife and new child, a baby is a bit of a challenge at first, but its not that hard, millions are born every year, its not like its a rare occurence, and any man worth his salt takes the challenge on and is better for it, women who say things like"its normal" need a swift reality check, and a good divorce lawyer.
2007-07-08 19:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, my step father started sexually molesting me when I was 7 and my mother was in the hospital after having had their first child. Poor Mom. I think a lot of men cheat during this time because they seem to not be able to go without and I think that's a real slap in the face.
2007-07-08 18:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Red Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman you love, has given of herself to produce a child of yours, and you need to cheat? Sorry do not understand this.If there is love real love there is no reason to find comfort in the arms of another. Sorry 26 years married never cheated, never will I gave my word of honor at our vows, my word means something to me, and my wife means even more to me. You are right she is an idiot, and lacking self esteem if she would let this happen.
2007-07-08 19:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It definetly is not normal for a man to cheat just because he has a new baby and he is "stressed". There is no good reason to cheat period. Chances are if he cheats because of the baby he will cheat everytime something "stressful" happens.
2007-07-08 18:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not "normal" to cheat, and stress is a crappy excuse.
Many men are more attracted to their wives during pregnancy and even so after birth.........nothing is stopping him from having sex with her while she is pregnant.
A cheater cheats because they have the desire to, not out of a need to de-stress.
2007-07-08 18:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by mahdiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your idiot friend is giving you is an excuse that cheaters make when they get caught cheating. But that['s not why they do it. They do it because they have no respect for their wife and mother of their firstborn. What a lowlife.
2007-07-08 18:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's normal and I KNOW it's not acceptable!
I've seen marriages that have survived affairs if the cheating spouse was truly repentant and ready/willing to change their ways...and the cheated-on spouse was willing to forgive (truly forgive) and both were willing to move on and get counseling.
This couple needs intensive counseling if their relationship is to survive.
SG
2007-07-08 18:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely a complete fool if she thinks its justifiable because of the birth!! No way would I do that! If anything, at that time you do MORE for your wife/girlfriend/partner to help them out, not sleep with smeone else. It seems to me like she's just scared of being a lone parent to be honest, and that he is using that to his advantage.
2007-07-08 18:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋