Interracial dating...?

Question

Ok. I'm white and i don't like to catagorize people nor care wut race the person is i'm dating. However, my family doesn't want me dating any african american boys. I happen to like a black guy but don't know how to get my family to accept it. Any ideas?

Answer 1

I am a black woman dating a white man and I have dealt with this also. Some members of his family don't exactly entertain the idea of him being with me but its what makes him happy. his dad and brother wont accept me but that doesn't matter because we love each other and we have been together for yrs despite all the negativity. All I can say is do what makes you happy and the rest will fall into place. If your parents see that you are happier with a different race they might change their minds. Every African American Male isn't he same and you might have to prove it. Good Luck!!!! Its scary at first but it is so worth it if he is good to you!!!!!

Answer 2

There are only two types of people in this world good, and bad, and race and or color have no bearing on this. If he is a nice guy introduce him to them, maybe they are jaded by what they see and hear on the news and the streets, in other words only experience is with the bad. When will we as a nation get over this color thing and realize we are all the same? Sorry about that it is one thing that really bothers me, in the army we where all green, and have experienced soo many good things from other nationalities and cultures. Would I care if my daughter dated a black man? No as long as he was a respectable person and treated her good, thats all a dad can really ask.

Answer 3

Im Hipanic dating an African American man, and it's the most amazing thing that has happened to me. =) But anyways, no matter who you date...I think family would normally wont agree because they belive that you are better than any man out there. However it is nice to have your family like the guy you are dating, but some situations it does not work out like that. It only matters what you think, he is dating you and not your family. If it's getting serious, I would say maybe proof to your family he is worth it, by showing them how sweet, and charming, and a hard worker he is. Oh and by the way, it's not based on the nationality, we are divided into two groups...a man a woman. Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

Forget it-25 years years ago,i had the SAME experience,with the love of my life.I am a black male,she was white.There are some very good posts here,good advice-In theory.Yes,you should live YOUR life,make YOU happy,but if your family(dad in particular)are dead-set against it as their core beliefs,you will not change them no matter how great the black guy is.Some people just will not accept it,period.(Lame excuses:Biblical-'birds of a feather'.Society:'What will others think',or my favorite:'What about the children')One poster said to keep it on the DL,just chill somewhere-Doesn't work,either-your 'friends' will,either inadvertently or on purpose tell because they are jealous and don't have the guts to date outside of their race,and chances are,your friends' parents have the same views also.Don't forget that people like to gossip,also-Especially about things that they deem scandalous.The secret will get out.The question is,i suppose,is just how serious ARE you about this relationship?If you are IN LOVE,i say go for it,you cannot live your life for others,you also cannot choose your relatives.If,as i am reading it right,you just like the guy and want to date him,just don't-Unless you are prepared to be ostracized by your 'family','friends',and yes even in 2007 society as a whole.The other question is just how close are you with your family,and are you willing to risk your relationship with them?Interracial couples that have been together awhile tend to be stronger,because they've HAD to be-An 'Us against them' mentality.

Answer 5

Mandy let me blunt to you, your family will not make you happy, your family will not take you for a date, so this means that yes you are a good and well mannered daughter but please get real here it's you that will be having a life sooner or later. What your family thinks is not important ,its them that has an issue when it comes to color of skin,but you are not them so get that off your mind. If you don't one day you will realize that you gave up your happiness because you want to please your family and not yourself.
Gosh forgive me but I can't stand when I hear that there still some people that do look on the color of someones skin. Our blood are all the same RED,no matter how you cut your skin it will still be red. Please accept my apology for saying what i think about your family...

Answer 6

Discrimination is both color and stereotyping. If you know it is an uphill battle for you, you should choose wisely. The stereotypical view of black men is they are less educated, take advantage of women through sex, and father many kids. No point to argue about the truth here. But if you do choose a man that matches all the above, it will only confirm your family's worst fears.

Answer 7

FIRST OF ALL SWEETHEART, YOU HAVE TO DECIDE FOR YOURSELF, AND WHO WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY. I'M AN AFRICAN AMERICAN AND EVEN THROUGH I'M I'M MARRIED TO THE MY SAME RACE, MY BROTHER IS MARRIED TO A WHITE FEMALE AND BOTH OF MY SISTER ARE DATING AND HAVE DATED WHITE MALES. MY PARENTS AND MY FAMILY DON'T SEE IT AS A COLOR WE SEE THEM AS A PERSON AND THAT'S HOW IT SHOULD BE. I ALSO FIND AND MOST AFRICAN AMERICAN FAMILY DON'T HAVE PROBLEMS WITH THE OTHER RACE DATING THEIR FAMILY MEMBER BUT MOST WHITE FAMILY DO BUT, YEAH TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART IT'S YOUR LIFE AND YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE WHO HAVE TO REALLY DEAL WITH THE PERSON THAT YOU'RE GOING TO BE INVOLVED WITH IN THE LONG RUN.


GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE THAT YOUR MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I too am a white female and I would rather date an African American man that treats me like a queen than a white man that beats me and treats me like crap. Tell your parents that we are all the same color on the inside and if they got to know your friends better they would see that. A persons heart is where their character should be judged not by the color of their skin.

Answer 9

If your other friends and family members have met this guy and he is the real thing, then sooner or later your parents will come to grips with it. Parents seem to want what they think is best for their children, not realizing that their child, as a person, might want something else. Just be yourself, eventually they will realize they love you and will deal with the rest.

Answer 10

Ok...my opinion is that under our skin we're all the same! I don't see interracial dating as a problem. When my boys were little they asked me what I would think if they married black women (we're about as pale as people get). I told them I didn't care what color they were (purple with fuscia polkadots, whatever) as long as they loved my boys and were godly wives.

God made us all & sees our world without borders (borders are man-made). It's us who have the problems introduced by those borders...not Him. :-)

My husband & I adopted interracially, so no matter what ethnicity of man they marry, there will be some kind of interracial aspect to it (if they marry white men, it'll be interracial to them, if they marry black men, it'll be interracial to us all, if they marry Latino men, it'll be interracial to us.).

Date who you want, as long as he treats you right! (now, if you're living at home, you probably need to submit to your parents' wishes as an act of honoring them & their support of you).

SG