My hubby has been getting worse and worse lately in regards to ignoring me and not even acting as if we are married. He is going out every day sometimes 2-3 times in a day on the weekends always without me. He has friends and names he mentions I have never met and people walk up to him and know him and I have no clue. He is leaving me out of invitations given by friends of ours. He does not tell me they called and he goes alone saying I did not want to go or was sick. He won't give me 30 seconds to ever talk to him. Our home is a flop house basically he stops in to use the bathroom and grab a drink and out the door again!! He just now took another job part time in addition to his full time job this new one being nights so now he literally will never be home. He never discussed this with me and I had no idea he was thinking of it. He does nothing with the kids. What is your take on this? Also he has become very critical of my appearence lately too. I need to "tone my arms" and so on....
2007-07-08 11:33:46 · 8 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, I am so sorry he is treating you this way.
How have you approached him to talk? If you could get him to be still for more than a few minutes, maybe you could start to get to the root of things. Plan a night out with him, and let him know plenty in advance so he has no excuse about why he cannot go.
If he is still distant with you, maybe look at your options. Don't immediately assume the marraige is over, and don't file for divorce immediately...give it some time. It's a big step, and a very hard thing to go through.
Hugs to you!
2007-07-08 12:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through this but lets try something. Get you and the kids and some things together. Leave and go on a vacation without him. If the relationship is going down he won't even call. But if he does than that means he cares and maybe yall can still pull this marriage together. Try everything you can to save the marriage. Give it your honest try and try to talk to him.
2007-07-08 11:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Christina G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you have realized that your marriage is in big trouble.It sounds like your husband wants nothing to do with you ,and you probably don't want to be with him either. The sooner you and your husband talk this through the sooner you both can get on with your lives.
2007-07-08 11:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i feel so sorry for you!i would say if you are married try marriage counseling-that don't work or if he doesn't want to do it separate see how he likes you gone!or you could do reverse phsycology on his butt-why won't you get new friends and you do your thing while he does his!!you ask is the marriage over-i believe it is but i am not the one in it-best of wish to you
2007-07-08 12:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he already left, just has not taken his cloths. Get a lawyer get support for your kids, and kick his but to the curb.Right now he is still there because it financially cheaper for him.
2007-07-08 11:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your husband has moved on with his life and left the marriage sometime ago.
2007-07-08 11:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-09 12:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over.
2007-07-08 12:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Stu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋