2007-07-08 11:02:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it would have to depend on their reasons. i no my family wouldnt just not like someone for no reason so if it was something important enough, then i would have to take it into consideration. but saying that, if i truly loved the person and they me, i hope i would never let something get in the way of that.
2007-07-08 11:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by ophelia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger this situation came up many times with my parents, and I can tell you I really did not care what they thought! I found ways to sneak around to see her, made up lies when I got home late after seeing her etc. Now that I am an adult, I believe that what I felt about my parents thoughts when I was younger was Ingrained in my person as an adult, and I always strive to accept my children's choices of who they "date" but I feel this is because times are different and attitudes about sex and drugs are completely changed from 30 years ago - so I always have my suspicions and intuitions on one of my child's dates-then I have to do the best to just let it go - let them figure out about life - I had to, so LET IT BE and just pray for them. Like I have been through sooo many break-ups, tears, rebounding, happy times, sad times,
Divorce, with some of my kids - But realized they HAD to go through these tough times to become better persons. Right now the twin 22 year old beautiful daughters are in Aruba -lucky them, I know they will party with who knows who, while I have to get up at 3 am and go to work. I have always had a saying - "I'm here-not there- Gods there-it is His turn to protect them........ I SAY IN ALL THIS - GO FOR IT!!! You only live Once- but mom and dad were right sooooo many times...kinda creepy the paternal instincts!!!
2007-07-08 18:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Henry H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An old girlfriend was the niece of my step-father (through marriage) and my mum hated her mother and therefore didn't think much of my then girlfriend and at first it used to bother me so I dumped her, but as a result I missed out on the birth of my first daughter. Eventually I got my priorities right and put my daughter and eventually my future wife first.
At the end of the day your happiness is more important than your parents comfort.
2007-07-08 18:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hendo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have done it a few times, most of the time they have been right but has taken me a while to realise (found the more they argued they more I rebelled) but my parents did not like my fiance until we got engaged and they realised he wasn't just messing me about.
I believe parents only have their childs best interests at heart but truly believe you should be allowed to make own mistakes. I may change my mind when I have kids of my own but at moment I really believe that.
2007-07-08 18:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by **sparkleprincess** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
(ANS) This is a very difficult emotional & psychological issue, why? because in my view what matters most is how much you like or love this person. Frankly it has nothing to do with your parents opinion. They are NOT the one's dating (going out with him or her) the person.
***HERES THE RUB? ***
However, & here's the catch22 part of the problem. We always want or seek our parents love and approval, and this extends to the area of who we choose to date (go out with). We would in an ideal world like our parents to approve of who we choose to date but of course it doesn't always work out that way.
**We may choose someone we like or even love a lot but who our mother or father doesn't like at all. Thats incredibly common.
**Another issue is involved here, dating shows the beginning of the move to brake away from parents and to become your own person, to become fully independent. That also leaves the parent/s feeling more anxious & unsettled, insecure as your begin to move away towards a separate life. A separate life means making your own choices independent of our parents.
**Dating is the starting gun of braking away from parents, & parents know this deep down.
Its a very tricky process and there are NO! easy solutions here I would suggest. Its all very subjective, one persons like is another persons dislike etc,etc.
Ivan
2007-07-08 18:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I married her. (We were both 25 yr old.) Unfortunately, my parents have refused to talk to us since. That was over 40 yr ago, we have a great marriage. They missed out on 2 wonderful grandchildren, and 2 fantastic great grandchildren. I have never regretted my decision to marry this sweet, lovely lady.
2007-07-08 18:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents really wouldn't pass comment so the only reason they would tell me they didnt like my partner is if there was seriously something wrong with them....
So probably not!
2007-07-08 18:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Avril 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I dont care what my parent think.. Its my life and i will date who I want and if my parents think I am making a "mistake" then I will make my own mistakes and i will learn from them myself, its all part of growing up. Have fun and dont let your parents dictate who you end up with.
2007-07-08 23:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by urb3stkpts3cr3t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself why your parents don't like them. Parents are usually good judges of character x
2007-07-09 09:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents hated my partner when we were 16 and they were trying their best to split us up we are now 37 and have 4 kids who are 19,15,13 and 10 now they love him to bits the only problem they have now is that we won't get married lol
2007-07-09 13:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by margaret 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋