I know I need to do this- I'd much rather go in on my own than get picked up by law enforcement- but I honestly don't know how to make myself do it- aside from the fear and humiliation, I would have to be able to let everything go- I'd have to be OK with leaving my kids, my animals, and all of my worldly possessions in someone else's care- and I would have to be OK with WHATEVER happens- because, of course, I'm the one who put myself in this position. Also, my 86 year old grandmother is in very poor health- I honestly don't think she'll be here in 6 months- and if she is, she most likely won't know me (dementia is progressing rapidly). How am I going to deal with the guilt of not being there for her? I'm her primary caregiver- and there just isn't anyone else! I realize that I should just "bite the bullet" and do it- but how do I make myself? And how do I let go?
2007-07-08 10:51:32 · 4 answers · asked by i_need_answers_please! 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know, these are the things you should have thought about before you reached this stage. Something to think about. Now, you could try to ask your lawyer as one suggested, but the best thing to do is arrange to have someone take you, like your lawyer, so that you do not drive yourself and have representation when you turn yourself in. It is best to just to do it and get it over with. Hopefully you will learn from this and avoid similar choices in the future. There is no easy way. Doing something as difficult as this will show what you are made of and will be something to look back on in the future. Look for opportunities to show the best part of yourself and good luck.
2007-07-08 11:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot tell you how to get the courage to do this but I can tell you my son skipped the state of VA 12 years ago without ever hearing his sentence. The chances would have been that he would have faced probation but who knows. The state of VA tracked him down in Colorado 4 weeks after his second son was born. His other son had just turned a year and he had begun a new job 3 months before. He avoided them in CO, traveled back to VA, scared all the time that he would get picked up before he could get there. He faced up to 28 years in prison for leaving the state. That is what you may face if you don't turn yourself in now. Good luck and maybe you will get our for good behavior or they will give you 3 days for every day you serve.
2007-07-08 10:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That takes courage? How long have you been a fugitive, anyway? Did you know that evading a warrant may escalate the original charges into felony status? Have you even been to trial yet? (you leave too much in the dark here)
2007-07-08 11:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get a continuance ... ask your lawyer if they can defer sentencing due to family reasons. Surely there's a way. Lawyers know all the tricks. :-) I suppose it also depends on what you're going IN for ... assault they might not look so kindly on ...drugs, they might be willing to consider you going to rehab (out-patient?) as part of your sentencing. Seriously, talk to your lawyer.
2007-07-08 10:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋