My girlfriend finished with me because she is going through a divorce and her daughter has become close me.?

Question

She says I am man she has met and I treat her very well but she still has pain from her ex husband, She said she knows I would never hur her. On monday she told me she Loved me and on tuesday her daughter cuddle me for the first time in 5 months and on thursday she finished with me. I am strong but very confused, what should I do?

Answer 1

You will have to wait for a while. She is going through her divorce grieving at the moment and not too stable.

Answer 2

She apparently is still confused on what she wants. I think you should just give her space, I believe she will overcome her issues and everything between the two of you will work out. As for the daughter, it seems she has grown close to you which is a good thing a young girl needs a father figure in her life, no I'm not saying that you are taking her fathers place or trying to but she now has another figure like that to confide in. All will work out in time.

Answer 3

Going through a divorce is a very stressful time and, although she may want the divorce, she will still be full of conflicting feelings and emotions. Maybe her daughter suddenly bonding with you made her realise just how close the three of you are getting and she that just cant concentrate on another serious relationship yet. Give her some time to settle, she may come round eventully.

Answer 4

I have no idea whether any of the other answers (above) go anywhere near 'dealing with your situation,' but they confuse me as to the amount of conjecture (without you actually providing needed details) they throw into the pot with all kinds of what can only be called 'assumptions' ~ about the age of the daughter, for a start.

From my perspective, 'remain strong' - as well as confused because you are perfectly entitled to be so.

Just simply make your statement about how you feel about her and the situation, and if you want to remain in their picture, then state that too ~ and tell them you'll be there if the need you ~ or 'your words' to that effect.

Go away, breath deeply and wait and see what happens.

That's my advice ~ which of course you may use, blend in with your own plan of actions or ~ whatever.

Good Luck to you.
Sash.

Answer 5

You can not make a person love you. Move on, even though I know it is hard. The pain will go away and you will soon find someone that is right for you. As for the daughter, her father/step-father will never except you being her life, so end it now before it grows and hurts more.

Answer 6

remember her first priority is her daughter and it always will be. as long as you can accept always being second, try to talk to your gf and explain that you know how difficult things are for her but you are willing to work at a solution that enables you to still see the mum but without the daughter becoming too involved just yet. mum doesnt want daughter to get too close only for you yo be gone. and maybe she is protecting the dad for the benefit of his relationship with his daughter. good luck

Answer 7

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do, it seems she has some unresolved issues that she needs to deal with. Let her go and find out what she needs in life, as for her daughter, she is only making it worse for her, not better. Stay away until she gets her head on straight.

Answer 8

You are dealing with the poison pill. A woman will not tolerate any cuddling with her daughter and you cannot keep it a secret ever. You may as well pursue the daughter cause momma is surely gone.

Answer 9

Divorce is a very emotional thing always second guessing if what she did was right, just be there as a friend and give it time

Answer 10

Maybe shes panicking because things have become quite serious. Her husband could also be giving her grief.
Make her life easy and leave her alone. She will contact you again soon, I'm sure.