improper thoughts?

Question

i keep having improper thoughts about a blonde girl when (especially when) i should be thinking about my gf.

When im self-medicating (tugjob) i keep thinking about some French girl who isnt brunette.

@Lotte
I disagree, i do love her and i have always been in love with her. She has always been there for me, ALWAYS, when i really needed her. I cant say the same...i have been a terrible person. But, im trying to change because I (thats myself) want to, because she is such a good and loving person.

Its just i have so many handicaps e.g. disabilities that it gets in the way of me wanting to show her how much i am deeply in love with her. I have insecurities, like trust issues and i suffer from depression so im not always myself. Its hard to understand when you see a person who everyone clearly sees a GOOD thing but dont understand why I act so devilish. Its true i am a bad person, buts im trying to be good, it just is very hard when (like i said) you have all these disorders in you.

To cut short, i am deeply in love with her.

@Talky
Ok, i agree. However, i'm just in a rotten position right now, and the only thing that made me happy was at least looking at that sort of material.

I agree when i play with myself i will ONLY think of my gf, which isnt a tall order considering how incredible sexy she is (mentioned about a million times and will a million more).

I just would never cheat on her, and since we've been together after a "break" she knows i would NEVER lust after another person, maybe flirt but never lust. She's all i need, and most probably all i could handle!

Thanks Deepak. I will. appreciate it.

Answer 1

ummmmmmm..............okay............. ur question is...?.......

Answer 2

I don't think it's a problem to fantasise about others...

I was reading a really raunchy book and then had great sex with my other half. I wasn't fantasising about my other half. I was just thinking about the scenario I had just read. He knows that. Doesn't make us bad people. The brain is a major part in sex and sometimes the same routine can bore us.

I think this is why people like porn and dressing up, it's not about not loving the person your with, it's about joining in together to make it more exciting.

I maybe wouldn't tell your gf unless she asks or something... but it's nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 3

Thoughts like that are normal, or at least to me; I don't think your girlfriend is going to be the only object of fantasy, especially if you are the kind of guy (as many, many guys do) who watch/read porn. As well as this, complete and utter devotion to your gf is not needed; how many girls do not still fantasise about Brad Pitt or Chad Michael Murray even when they have a boyfriend?

However, if it's constant or too often...then maybe you should just think about your relationship a little...are you really that in love with her? Or is it just a down moment in your relationship? Would you rather not be with her?

Sorry, complicated answer, I know. xD

Answer 4

maybe u and ur gf need 2 separate for a while. u should go on a trip or visit some relatives in a different city 4 a week or 2 u r probably having problems wit her and have problems with an ex or something!! its natural and everyone fantasizes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Those aren't improper thoughts, they're natural thoughts and don't let the Bible-thumpers browbeat you.

As long as you love your girlfriend, that's all that matters. It doesn't matter if you think of Angelina Jolie when you need to summon a stiffening. Whatever works to let your girlfriend know you love her, dude.

Answer 6

I don't see what the problem is. It's human nature and very natural to fantasize. Unless you are losing feelings for your current gf then I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 7

could be standard fantasy. We all would like to bone up certain girls seems you are infatuated and not in love. Crack off a few times and it will go in a few months.

Unload teh toad!

Answer 8

You sound like me: and usually in my fantasies I'm *not* me - I'm someone who can do all the stuff I can't do. And, sometimes in my fantasies I'm this other person with my husband - but sometimes I'm this other person with some other person.

Is it possible that's what's going on with you?

Helen

Answer 9

You only have thoughts about yourself. It's all about you, isn't it? Don't worry, your GF probably imagines she's making out with some other guy whenever she's with you, too.

Answer 10

Completely normal. Don't worry.

Answer 11

The Bible says that any man who lusts after another woman has already committed adultery in their heart.