in a way it seems pointless. my mom and stepdad's relationship is kinda sucky but my my dad and stepmom's is great. it makes me wonder if marraige is really worth it. is there such thing as true love and are people really willing to spend the rest of their life with someone else??
2007-07-08 09:22:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is worth it.
The problem is not marriage; the problem is the people. Some people, like your mom don't recognize what they truly need in a mate, and pick the wrong person. Others, like your dad finally figure out what they need and pick a good spouse.
Marriage takes work. There is true love. Some people are willing and desire to spend their lives with a partner, but others really aren't able to accomodate another person fully in their lives.
I had two children, both boys, 2 years apart. They were raised in the same home by the same two parents. Yet, they were very different in many ways and it took work at times for them to learn to get along. If 2 children of the same sex and age, raised by the same parents have to work at getting along, then how can we expect two people of different age and sex and raised by different parents to get along without any disagreements?
People forget that and have false expectations that sexual attraction means they'll always get along great with no problems.
If you go into marriage understanding that it's ok to disagree and you have to show you value your partner regularly and work on getting along, then you tend to have a much better marriage.
2007-07-08 23:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure seems pointless right now. Even though marriage looks like a no-winner it can be great. One of my friends said that if you're lucky you marry a kindred spirit. Maybe if you take your time and not settle for what your pants (or pocket) tell you to do you'll find that kindred spirit. I think the bad marriages are getting all the publicity. Half of marriages in the U.S. last. Remember that part. Half are good. You said that your mom's new marriage is not so good but your dad's is great. That's it right there. The 50% thing.
We have gotten to where everyone is a narcissist. We got everything (just about) when we were little and don't want to give or share, just take. Marriage is giving and taking. Marriage is sharing. Not everyone has children so I'm not talking about just that. You still have to share space, time, things and values. If you can't do that then... If you choose to raise a family you'll need a good spouse unless you have the money to hire several nannies. Who is going to earn the money and who is going to raise the kids and maintain the household? Hired help costs a lot even just to walk the dogs or feed the cats. If everyone decides not to marry or raise a family then we'll be like the dinosaurs; extinct. Maybe thats what happened to them. They decided it was too much trouble to mate and procreate.
2007-07-08 16:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by psi2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's worth it people can either make marriage work or not work it depends how they feel after they are tied down if they like it or not. Every marriage has its ups and down cause men and women see things way different than each other. I'm from a different state than my husband we fight most the time that's cause we have different background's he's use to one thing i another. Most the time its just a big misunderstanding between each other.
2007-07-08 19:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by little lou lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love exists, but it is very hard to find.
Marriage is a beautiful thing if the two people in it are comitted to each other and to making it work. It isn't easy and it sure isn't right for everyone.
Too many people marry for the wrong reasons and end up hurting themselves and others along the way. This is why we must ask God to guide us and to help us choose correctly.
2007-07-08 16:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you meet the right person for you. But some people get married for the wrong reasons. Its really a gamble. Could be the greatest or the worst. And some times it changes that quick. I think its worth it. Its nice to have another person to go through life with.
2007-07-08 16:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by cns-vend@prodigy.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dream of true love, but after all I have been through, I am very jaded. I do not know if it is worth it anymore, I almost want to give up myself. I always make the wrong choices and end up sad in the end. I like to think it can happen, but it all seems foreign to me.
2007-07-08 16:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by prettykitty0829 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is really worth it, If and only if your with the right person. Sometimes we choose people that are right for us right now and don't look at what obstacles may come. When you are able to communicate with someone on every subject and level, respect one another and truly want to prosper together. I believe its worth it.
2007-07-08 16:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by TheDivineBelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main point is to be with someone you really love. Getting married to them is not the end-all and be-all, it's just a bonus.
2007-07-08 17:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by nat_skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I thought it was but it's not I fell in love I married him and then just after 3 years of being together he just ignores me now
2007-07-08 16:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by suzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever fall head over heals in love with someone, I think it would be worth it. I wouldn't just get married for heck of it.
2007-07-08 16:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Alana CK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋