Me and my fiance had our first real fight. I mean yelling screaming and the whole thing. It wasen't one of those that you are over in five mintues. Well when i grabbed the phone to call my dad to come get me ( matt had picked me up) he knocked the phone out of my hands and when I grabbed it back he smacked me across the face. he busted my nose and blacked my eye. That was the first time he has ever even raised his voice to me. He has apologized and he is already in anger management. Should I forgive him?
2007-07-08 09:14:30 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I saw one of you ask how old I was. I'm 21. He picked me up becuase we just wrecked my car and it's still in the shop.
2007-07-08 09:20:35 · update #1
No I think you should leave Him for couple of day and let him know that if it happens again you will leave Him for good this is before it get to far.good luck and take good care .
2007-07-09 10:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chinita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry there is no reason that a man should hit a woman EVER!!!!! By doing so he has shown that he is not a man. Never Never stay with a man who has hit you if has done it once, he will do it again. Anger management will not help except for the court order and they always apologize after the fact. Leave him and find a real man that will respect you and treat you right.
2007-07-08 12:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure...forgive him AFTER you've packed up and moved out! Do NOT stay in this type of a relationship.
If he did this during your FIRST fight, what's going to happen with your second, third or fourth fight? You don't think you'll never have an arguement again, do you?
Give yourself more value than he has given you because a man that hits a woman as hard as he did that he broke your nose puts absolutely no value on you.
I'm sure he wouldn't throw a rock through the windshield of his vehicle. Leave him now or plan on more visits to the E/R in your future. And if you choose to stay with this man, please do not reproduce!
2007-07-08 09:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by whatchagonnado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if a guy hits u, u need to leave asap and call the police and never forgive him for it and never fall for his excuses and just because he says sorry and cries does not mean he wont do it again so dump him do not turn back move on take care of urself He will abuse u again no one should ever abuse u and u deserve so much better u need to be treated special and the guy should care for u. A man that hits is not a man he is a control freak and he he has problems and it gets worse not better so leave.
2007-07-08 13:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen sweetie anger management does not always work u don't deserve and body putting there hands on u for any reason what so ever u r a queen and should be treated like one if he hit u once he will do it again as soon as u push a nerve or he figures he lost control u don't need that in ur life and u also deserve more good luck on what u deside to do be very careful
2007-07-08 10:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by SHARIKA F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not NO, but HELL NO! You are messing with an abusive man..be thankful you found out NOW. NEVER see him again, I don't care how much anger management he goes through, this is not something that has a guarantee of cure. He is acting as he was taught..violence. Run now before it gets worse. A black eye and broken nose??? I cannot believe your father hasn't insisted on swearing out a warrant on the jerk. For you to even consider taking him back is insane, girl ... where in the hell is your head?
2007-07-08 09:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would. The same thing happened with myself and my fiancee the other day. He's never even raised his voice to me and the next day he started seeing an anger management therapist. I would say just see what happens, but if you feel that this is something that isn't going to happen again, then give him the benefit of the doubt that it wont. Is he maybe going through a lot of stress lately that could be part of why he got so aggravated?
2007-07-08 09:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
HELL NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! My hubby has an anger problem too with yelling-cussing- not at me but in general. and he knows if he hits me- its over. ican help not provoke him and let him cool off when he's too excited but i fhe hurts me or the kids its over! You're not even married yet- move on let him lose you and be punished with regret so he never hits another woman in a relationship. He'll do it over and over again-once you're married- he'll always apologize and make up for it. Just get out. Be strong find someone better.
2007-07-08 09:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's only going to get much worse after marriage. The help that he needs to get in order to change is a very long, hard, uphill road for him to climb. And he needs to face those demons alone. This isn't something that you can fix or make better. Love doesn't hurt or leave bruises.
2007-07-08 09:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by catts_purrrrr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell no.theres no excuse.ive been pist at my wife plenty(ex-wife now) and no matter how pist off i get its never,i repeat never right not even once.my mom used to get her a$$ beat daily when i was younger.its not worth it.think about if you have kids and how it could f them up.or they could get hurt.that goes for dudes too.anyone can be abusive and it is not something that should be dealt with by blowing off as a fluke.alot of things can be forgiven but if youre life could be potentially put at risk you need to bail.there are plenty of good men out their that will love you and still not expect you to take an a$$ whippin to prove it.
2007-07-08 12:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by stinkfist_117 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋