What to do when a loved one passes away?

Question

What can I do to make myself feel better about my mother passing away? It happend a week from today and I need some advice...websites that might have some good advice....anything......

Answer 1

My dad passed away when I was little. I know how hard it is and the pain will never completley pass. Always remeber that you have to greive don't be afraid to cry or to talk to anyone about your feelings. It hurts now but, the pain will ease. healing takes time

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss. It's not easy when a parent passes away. I was 26 when my father passed away(14 years ago) and I was heartbroken. I was his baby girl. I asked my mother to let me have a few of his personal belongings. Also, I had some pictures and made a photo album with just his pictures or ones that he was part of. Also I have written some poems about him. That has helped a lot. I talk to him as if he were sitting next to me. Remembering the good times has helped as well. I sill miss him but the pain is not as great. In time you will heal but you will never forget your mother. God bless you!

Answer 3

Hi Megan -(great name I have a Meagan)

I have 0 idea how to help you here and soon the time will come for me to deal with this - my dad nearly died suddenly two years ago and it was rough - my husbands uncle died 3 weeks ago and it was tragic and hard (he was a great man).

I do not think you will ever get over her - time will heal all wounds - but there will be days that remind you of her so much (her b day, holidays, mothers day) all you can hope is that something blesses you with knowing she's "around".

For example - as a hospice nurse I cared for a patient whom I grew close to - she collected roosters.
One day I asked her about them and she told me "why".
When she passed - time went on and our family (dear husband and my 3 kids moved to a new state due to family and job) I missed my old town, friends etc and a new friend invited me over the coffee mug had this big rooster on it and it made me smile - it's things like that - and I hope you have family that are feeling pain too - so you can laugh and cry together?
Perhaps if she died of a certain way get involved in that (public awareness) to honor her - ??
Google it to find the right group on the net.

Answer 4

There's never an easy way to know what you should do when a loved one passes away.

First off, I'm sorry about your mother. It's probably the hardest thing a son/daughter could go through. Take the time to honor her memory, and then carry on with your life. I'm sure she doesn't want your life to end when she passed away, right? Honor that.

PS: I'm sorry if I was blunt. I really cannot deliver my answer gently. But there you have it. Hope it helps.

Answer 5

I'm sorry honey, my condolences to you and your family! My Mother died coming up 8 years ago and i miss her so much, still!. Mothers are wonderful, they give unconditional love and seem to make you feel that everything is OK and that you can conquer the world. A mothers embrace is like heaven and her smile like sweet nectar. The world seems like a better place with our Mums around, when they leave us there is a hole in our heart that will never ever be filled, not with anything or anyone! I had a little girl 27 months ago and what kills me is my Mum will never know her beautiful grandmother. My daughter will never feel that amazing unconditional love of a grandmother, that special one-on-one relationship between a grandmother and her grandchild. Since i had my daughter i feel my mother all around us. I see her in my daughter, Thur her eyes and her smile and her laughter. The way she walks and her little actions. My daughter is so much like Mum. I will honour my mother by being a wonderful Mother to my daughter and i will strive to be the best i can be for her. That's the best gift i can give my mother! Stay strong honey, death is not the end! xoxox

Answer 6

I am sorry for your loss. It leaves a big hole in your heart and a searing pain! Grief is a hard journey to make and yours has only begun. There is a site called memory.com and it pays tribute to love ones. If you read some of these tributes you will understand that your pain is shared by others. Remember, you will Hold your Mothers heart in yours forever. Talk about her when you need to, it helps. People all gireve in their own time. I wish you well.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear that.

your family will help, you have aunts etc that you can talk to or close friends?

perhaps there is a bereavement counciler at your school?

years ago when I was your age a friend had the same thing happen to him. I didn't know what to say, I guess spending time with them helped.

no matter how old you get, no one ever knows the right thing to say..

It will take a long time, do you have any hobbies that will keep your mind occupied?

play video games , do sport , draw or something , just something to take your mind off things, a distraction.

you won't forget her, we all only have one mum regardless of how old we get.

http://retrospec.sgn.net/

that some games anyway.

Answer 8

My sympathy for your loss. When my dad died, I teared up for months afterwards, driving in the car or looking at pictures, etc. A week is not a very long time to be worried about feeling better yet, it will take a while. Meanwhile, you might want to see if there is a grief support group in your area. I found that talking about my dad to others really helped me. Take care.

Answer 9

My grandmother passed away awhile back, and I'm still sad, but want to know what? Have yourself a good cry. It always helps. Don't mull over it too long though, just have a cry and remember all the good times, remember that she is somwhere special, where you will be too one day. Don't let it hold you back because you feel bad about having fun, live your life FOR her, because she'll be living it with you in your heart.

As cheesy as it sounds, it's true.

Answer 10

when my father died I tried to just think he was in a better place not in pain. But you have to have faith. If not just think that as time passes the pain is not as bad. I try to pray to God to take care of my father and to help me with the pain of my loss. After a few years I had a dream my father was waiting for me to come home. He told me he had a warning for me and did not have much time. f told him I loved him and missed him. He told me he knew all that. I asked when I die will he be there. He replied yes I'll be waiting for you. Maybe it was just a dream or maybe he came to me. I don't know. But the alarm clock went off and I woke up.