My husband is 11 years older then I am (he is 40 I am 29)..We have had a pretty good marriage however, lately he has completely closed up. He is ALWAYS in a bad mood and acts like he is disgusted to be around myself and our 3 year old boy. I keep the house clean, cook, take care of our son, work, and run to stay in shape. What gives? I have asked him and he continues to make excuses (too tired, long day at work, etc.) If he is unhappy why doesn't he just leave? I don't need him to stick around and make me feel like I am doing something wrong. I can't sleep or eat and I feel like I am walking on eggshells with him. I am so over it! Please help!
2007-07-08 07:43:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that many will disagree with me, but the only way I found peace through my life was with God.
It might or might not be the answer for you, and it is not the answer for everybody. Counseling works great for many people and you can always try a doctor that can be trusted.
2007-07-08 11:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answers...Sounds like he's really stressed out and worried; but he shouldn't make you feel like it's your fault. This is not a healthy situation, and you might become ill or depressed in the future.
Try talking to him....If he refuses to open up, then YOU go to therapy and have a professional help you deal with your feelings. He/She can also give you tips on how to deal with your husband's attitude.
IF things continue like this, maybe there is something else going on...and you should keep your eyes and ears open.
Good luck!
2007-07-08 15:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him that you love and care about him. Tell him if you were unhappy wouldn't he want to know why?
Maybe first he needs to see a doctor for a check-up, to rule out an illness. If he won't speak to you then it's time to make a appt. for profressional help and insist he go along. You sound like a nice lady and deserve to be treated as such.
2007-07-08 14:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how he is making you feel and then suggest counseling. If he refuses then you have to think of yours and your son's happiness. It is not good for a child to grow up in a house full of hostility and resentment. Best wishes for you and your little boy. I hope everything works out.
2007-07-08 14:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by mikemja316 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is overwhelmed and stressed. Have things changed for him at work? Do you have financial problems? When my hubby was giving me the cold shoulder, it was because of money. Give him more time to settle things out.
2007-07-08 15:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lucci 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is probably experiencing a Mid Life Crises *
2007-07-08 18:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counseling. If he won't consider it, I'd call a lawyer.
2007-07-08 14:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
he may have problems ; but that is still . no reason to take it out on you ;and your son . tell him to move on .
2007-07-08 15:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋