He tried a couple of times, he tried fingering me to make me wet, but it still wasn't working. We were both drinking, so would this be the cause?? He got a hard on straight away, and tried to get inside me. I am only 26 and have had a few boyfriends but nothing serious, they lasted only a few months. His penis was very wide, but i'm just unsure really why this happened.
Thanks
K
2007-07-08 06:56:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
KY jelly
2007-07-08 07:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sick of F*ckwits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was you nervous? sometimes our body tenses up and then realising it makes it worse.
It also sounded a little bit rushed as in "he got a hard on straight away, and tried to get inside me" Sometimes us girls want to be introduced slowly into intercourse, that the fun.
Also, I know this sounds icky, men if you can't handle it leave this paragraph alone, but we do get dry spells, just before or after our periods and this doesn't aid getting freaky.
Try to always have a small tub of KY jelly, right next to the condoms! There's nothing to be ashamed of and its quite good to use on the man if you're giving a ham shank!lol
Don't worry about it, just get out there, condoms in hand and get back on the saddle (pardon the pun) :)
2007-07-08 14:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a sexology course about 3 years ago and my teacher was talking about this kind of thing. Apparently women do tend to close up sometimes even if they do decide to go through with it. She said it was because even though you consciously choose to have sex, your body doesn't really want it, you don't really feel like doing it. So even if your mind is saying yes emotionally and physically you are saying no.
2007-07-08 14:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by P.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a couple things: 1) you were both too drunk to make it work....reflexes and coordination are definitely impaired when drinking....or 2) he was just too wide to fit in. Don't worry or stress about it. It's nothing YOU did.
2007-07-08 14:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have needed lube because it was so wide, or you might have not realised that you were slightly nervous or uncomfortable, which can cause you to tighten and tense. Try taking it a little slower and just relax and let him do his thing! And good luck to ya! ;-)
2007-07-08 14:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by footyfan_stoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try it again when you are both sober and use some KY and take your time . If it going to work it will do not beat your self up. Good luck next time .
2007-07-08 14:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude it was the bloke....not u
some men are crap like that. maybe u just didnt like him or he didnt turn u on
there could be loads of reasons but dont dwell on it or even question it
just forget what happened and move on cos if u keep worrying about it when u have sex again the situation will just occur again...just cos ure worrying about it
2007-07-08 20:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing this was the first time you tried to have sex with him. Buy some ky jelly honey, it works wonders.
2007-07-08 14:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey its all about lubrication,if your out and don't have something safe to use like KY jelly he should try this. He should do oral on on, using his saliva to lubricate and stimulate you. If he wants the pleasure your tight ***** can offer,it's the least he can do.
2007-07-08 14:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by JmB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were nervous and without knowing it your muscles tightened up and wouldn't allow penetration. You need to relax more when you are with him that is the only way that it will work.
2007-07-08 14:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have been alittle to big for you! Try some lube next time and go with the flow!
2007-07-08 14:00:46 · answer #11 · answered by ღ|l°Coltrane°l|ღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋