Throwing and hitting things across the room, yelling, cursing, telling someone to shut up, driving reclessly, punching on dash board of car, throwing cell phone and wedding ring at someone, punching in bag of chips dumping it all over floor, slamming down fists on table, telling someone to shut up then slamming on the brakes of car when they don't, ramming chair into desk, hitting head on cuboards, kicking shoes into door, hitting plate of cookies into wall, grabbing at someone sexually, telling someone F*** You. Why does a person act in these behavoirs? Is it meant for control and power? What does it say about him?
2007-07-08 06:38:40 · 9 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Those sound like the behaviors of someone with little self control or respect for the person they are yelling/throwing things/grabbing at. This person sounds like they have the capacity to become violent, in fact some of these behaviors ARE violent.
In terms of what it says about him, it says he is a person you should stay away from, if this is someone in your family I hope you can convince him to get counseling. If he is an addict, that could be related to these behaviors.
2007-07-08 06:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by jenni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These isoated incidents seems very abusive-but its not a full story/ picture. The person having these actions might have a different perspective. Generally- they have an anher management problem- but that doesn't mean they can not work on it or are abusive. My hubby is froma a different culture and has learned behavior from the models he grew up with teh curse when he's mad- when he's not mad i talk to him about it and he agrees he has no right to do that and feels bad-hitiing is a different story-that's a no no no. He is easily angered and from living on an doff overseas with his family i undersatnd where it ocmes from. It is very acceptable in his culture for mothers to hit/scream/ etc. and he was always hit for stupid thing slike gettign water on the floor/loosing a pencil-its resulted that he get very angry as an adult with the same issues he was punished for as a child. It seems insane at me b/c i was raised so differently/ but i always keep him in balance by never allowing him to hit the kids/ clamly talking when he gets upset and correcting the trivial problem raitionally. You copy the modesl in yo life and i do yell at teh kids about cleaning the same way my mom did0even though i hate it and its not healthy for them or me. i do try to work on it and habbits are hard to change. if he recognizes his bad habbit then he hsould put forth an effort to change. talk to him when he's calm and be very careful not to create defensiveness with you words. work through this problem unless it gets to the point of physical abuse. Don't provoke when he's that angry if he has a problem - just walk away until he cools off and discuss this problem because it can become out of ocntrol. but it might be learned behavio that he can recognize he needs to change and help support him in breaking bad habbits- also exercise has halped my hubby a lot he might have a testosterone imbalance and need exercise to release serotonin and take vitamins.
2007-07-08 06:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The statistic says that most abusers were the victims of abusers during their childhood. Controllers can be a response to that abuse or to their own feelings of inadequacies. Anger outbursts, whether directed toward a person, animal or object, is still an outbursts with the potential of serious harm. I would and do avoid anyone with any of those characteristics because I know that eventually the control of the outbursts will be lose and I do not want to be a victim.
2007-07-08 06:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is for control and power yes. It says he really needs professional help. I assume you are married to him/living with him etc.
I assure you this type of behavior will move into the physical abuse area later if not sooner. I think he is a danger to you and any other family members in the household.
Why he acts like that because he has seen he can. You must either suggest you 2 seeking counseling, if he refuses...get out of this situation as soon as possible. Most likely he won't change so please do not wait for that. I am afraid one day he is going to hurt you badly and it is not worth staying for. See an attorney and get a restraining order on him as soon as possible. There are places for abused women to go. Look in your phone book and call them immediately and they will assist you in everything.
2007-07-08 12:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... based on the scant information you've provided, it DEFINITELY sounds like you're in a great deal of danger staying with this person. I seriously hope his violence hasn't manifested itself into punching or slapping you yet, but trust me... IT WILL. This type of abuse worsens with time. Take immediate steps to distance yourself from your husband and if need be, find a shelter for battered and abused women.
My heart goes out to you.
2007-07-08 06:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by hortha71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is abusive behaviours and you need to leave the household before you get seriously hurt. contact you local dfs or division of social services and find out how to get to a womens shelter quickly. what it says about him is that he is mentally ill and very dangerous he needs to be put in a psychiatric hospital to be diagnosed and treated. but let me tell you straight off. once an abuser always an abuser. i have this from first hand experience. do not ever go back to him. leave what's there. you can replace them but you cannot replace yourself.
2007-07-08 07:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tha kind of behavior is passive-aggressive behavior, it refers to passive, sometimes obstructionist resistance to following authoritative instructions in interpersonal or occupational situations. It can manifest itself as resentment, stubbornness, procrastination, sullenness, or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is assumed, often explicitly, to be responsible more often it is use as defense mechanism..People with this personality style are often quite unconscious of their impact on others, and thus may be genuinely dismayed when held to account for the inconvenience or discomfort caused by their passive-aggressive behaviors. In that context, there is a failure to see how they might have provoked a negative response, so they feel misunderstood, held to unreasonable standards, and/or put upon.
2007-07-08 07:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by lynne c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run...fast and get the hell out of there
Obviously they need anger management classes and someone is gonna get hurt if they don't..
I would leave if I had to deal with someone like that..
2007-07-08 06:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rebel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES...that person is very controlling..i wouldn't want to be around sucha a person for sure.
2007-07-08 06:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋