My Husbands Grandma has been making some rude comments towards me when no-one (except my 6 year old son) is around.
First rude comments about All-a-Dollar (you can read more in my other Questions) well those comments stopped after I confronted her about it but now she is at it again!
Yesterday as I was walking into her bathroom, She started asking me questions about toilet paper for 5 mins. or more.
Asked me well actually told me to wipe once and if I don't feel clean enough get a wet wipe to use. I was appalled because to me you don't ask someone how they wipe and why they use alot of toilet paper (which I don't, She thinks that I use it all but when she has 8 or more guests over and everyone is going to the bathroom....get my point) and then tell them what to and how to wipe instead! I don't get it she is the richest person in our family and she's complaining about toilet paper!
I did offer to bring my own, but I still don't know how to handle this.... Any Ideas?
2007-07-08 06:35:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She started to be rude to me and push me around when everyone else stopped taking her sh*t.
But I feel like I'm going to lose it with her and I don't want that because I still do love her but this has to stop!
We see her every week!
I have a feeling that she's doing this to make her feel better! It's not right!
What should I do?
2007-07-08 06:39:12 · update #1
Also yesterday she asked me to start her lawn mower for her and I told her that I couldn't even start my dad's when I was still living at home. and that I had high heels on so I couldn't but she insisted more and then she told me rudely
"and when you get it stared you can mow my lawn too!"
I am shocked! She use to be so nice to me but rude to my husband.
She is also fighting with her son and because she won't speak her mind with him she's taking it out on me!
2007-07-08 06:59:07 · update #2
I wouldnt take that. Bring your husband into this. Tell him whats going on and let him know that it is really affecting the way you look at his side of the family. If noone is gonna stick up for you, then handle it yourself. Dont let her know that she is getting a reaction out of you. Good Luck !!
2007-07-11 02:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is old plain and simple. You should hear what my 93 years old mother comes up with.
Next she will not 'remember' ever saying anything like that and call you a liar.
Patience on your part is what I see is called for.
I would steer away from confrontation with her. If you guys see her every week then why can't those visits be short? or take the car and go 'run errands'
Please try and not take what she says personally I mean come on toilet paper?? LOL
If anything try and find the humor..
2007-07-08 06:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that you love her but face it, she is probably slowly losing control of her world and will act childish to try to get control. You let her get away with it so you are the target. I deal with this in my own elderly parents and my hubby's family as well. It seems like they regress in their behavior becoming less and less adult as they age. My Dad is not far from nursing home material so the worst one for me is him right now. He has decided to quit wearing his hearing aide and false teeth. So communication is hard and he complains lots about the food he must eat. The list goes on and on. We as caring relatives have to just paste a smile on our faces and march on. It is hard but that's life. My advise is to ignore her. Take a cue from the others in the family as to how they are handling her. I am sure others might have some insights for you. My elderly mother in law is obsessed with her phone and how her curtain shades are hanging in her house right now. My poor hubby ends up over there a lot hanging and rehanging her shades. He also has to reprogram her phone about once a week. Sigh.....Life is tough.
2007-07-08 07:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you would use the toilet brush but it makes your *** sore. Fine one of those stores that sell those huge rolls that you sometimes get in public toilets or give her a roll of ZAL that stuff realy does make botty sore.Or tell her you stopped using nappys years ago and you only use them once a month now, that should put her in her place or shout down (Where do you want me to put my S****** TOWEL) She will soon keep her opinyons to herself.
AGONY UNCLE.
2007-07-08 06:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs control, so now your her target. Older people can be very frugal about money no matter how much they have. This is her character and not likely to change anytime soon. Just smile and say OK and that will make her think your agreeing with her.
2007-07-08 06:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if you have a chip on your shoulder. Be careful, dear, you may want your family to inherit some of her money one day...and at the rate you are going, it ain't gonna happen. Would it really be so hard to just humor her?
2007-07-08 06:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her. Tell her until she treats you and your son with respect that you will not grace her with your presence. There is no excuse for her behavior. She is old enough to know better. What an example for your son to see.
2007-07-08 06:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her...or whenever she asks you about the toilet paper, just look at her like she's wierd. lol
2007-07-08 06:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with her? If you do...move. If you don't....don't visit her without your husband.
2007-07-08 06:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋