I was divorced back in July last year, and met and fell head over hills in love with a woman since then. She is also in the middle of a divorce. We are so much alike and have a wonderful relationship. Do you think it is too early to be talking about marriage already? We both love eachother dearly and want to be together. I am the reason she is getting divorced now. I told her that if she wanted to be with me, get divorced and we will pursue that. what do you think?
2007-07-08 06:16:04 · 11 answers · asked by bob h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry that I did not mention before that the marriage was on the rocks before I came along. I think I was the catalyst though. Please no talk of homewrecking and the sort, as that does not help me. I just want to know what you all think of us getting married. I love her with all of my heart, as does she.
2007-07-08 06:26:39 · update #1
Way to soon to think about marriage. Give it time to see if it will work. If it is true love, time will not matter as it will still be there. You both have went through rocky marriages, you don't want to end up with another divorce. Date and have fun and time will tell if you two are meant to be together.
2007-07-08 06:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it is too early to be talking marriage. Anything looks better (you) when you are not happy with what you have. I'm not saying you're not a good guy and that you two shouldn't have a relationship. But, people who are in the midst of divorce can get all wrapped up in the "new and exciting" feelings of someone else showing them attention etc...If you both love each other and want to be together, give it some time before you marry. You want to make sure that she loves you for you and isn't jumping into this relationship because she is afraid of being alone etc... Good Luck!
2007-07-08 13:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by IceIt71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have serious baggage right now. 2 + 2 =5. I wouldn't rush right into another marriage when both of you are just getting out of damaged ones. Give it some time. It might be worth it.
2007-07-08 13:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't see what the rush is. If you love each other and you want to be together, you can do it without marrying. I'd give yourselves time to recover from divorce before jumping back into that.
2007-07-08 13:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you are taking things way too fast!
A divorce is not a pleasant thing...and if you have gone through one I would hope you've had time to sit down and evaluate what went wrong and to what extent the blame of this failure is yours......
I think men find it harder to be alone than women do...Just my opinion. Also, rebound relationships are not a good idea...They tend not to last. Good luck.
2007-07-08 13:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the rush?
while i believe the only people that you should really have to ask this question is you and your significant other...i also think that you should just take your time. maybe try living together first and waiting for both of your divorces to be final before jumping into another wedding.
2007-07-08 13:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by skittle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you feel good about yourself when you broke up her marriage? I think you are fooling yourselves. This was "exciting" but you need to find out who you are before you try marriage again. Otherwise, you will be on divorce #2 in no time.
2007-07-08 13:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if both of you where unhappy for awhile in your other marriages, then no it is not wrong to be talking about marriage so soon. If you both want the same thing and then go for it. If you love her and she loves you there is really no reason to wait or to "shop around" for someone else.
Good luck
2007-07-08 13:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did u tell her to get a divorce to pursue you..this relationship will not work because of that..ur see....now if her marriage was just falling apart and you sat in the background and watch it..then it would have had a chance of lasting but...she is going to resent you....im me if im not getting it..but i believe i am
2007-07-08 13:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a good idea to jump back into another relationship.
Oftentimes decisions made in haste are regretted.
2007-07-08 13:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋