My boyfriend has just asked me to marry him and i've said yes..but i'm having doubts.
He doesn't seem like the person to keep promises or commitments-I don't know why he asked me to marry him because he seemed to ignore me the past few days, seem uninterested in me and his sex drive level has gone way down.
And then out of the blue he just popped the question.
He seems more interested in a girl at work then me- he is always talking to her, always talking about her, always telling me she is pretty, always talking about how smart she is, and he even invited her over for dinner and they acted like I wasn't there. I up and left the table and neither of them noticed.
He even said that her boyfriend just broke up with her and she was available.
Now all he does is invite her over and make her dinner and "comfort her". One night I found a long blonde hair strand (my hair is brown) and smelled perfume (wasn't mine) and one high heel under our bed. That wasn't my high heel.
2007-07-08 06:06:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually I'm the type of person to say work it out and communicate, but reading ur last paragraph, I would say shove that ring down his thoat! If you're going to marry someone, shouldn't you feel that ur the center of their universe? Seems to me, someone else has that spot.
2007-07-08 06:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes the girl at work thing is weird. But it seems to me that your boyfriend may have proposed to you out of comfort and convenience. The relationship is changing and going a little mute he may sense that you wouldn't be happy and want to leave. What do guys think would make girls happy? Marriage. You already know that it's not right. You want him to be someone he's not; like most girls. So that's why you're still with him. I think you should take time for yourself; gym, friends or what not and move on. It'll take time but getting married will NOT fix anything. I've got plenty of examples to tell you about just not enough time!
2007-07-08 13:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by MissyFLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't know why you said "Yes" to him when in fact he's already showing these signs to you. Cut the relationship now and explain to him why before you marry him. This situation is not normal and what's going to happen is that you'll end up divorcing this guy because even you're not married yet he's cheating on you. Move on and you can find a guy who will love you more and not take you for granted. A guy who is sensitive enough to understand what you're feeling. Dump the guy!
2007-07-08 13:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by I_Rockzzz!!! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what is going on, and you know what you SHOULD do...But you are asking this because you want to hear from total strangers that your fiance is cheating...
Please go with your instincts and call this wedding off ASAP.
IF you make the foolish mistake of thinking he loves and respects you just because he asked you to marry him, you will be VERY miserable in the future. This is not a good scenario!
You have already seen how he acts around this other girl...and you have already found physical evidence of his cheating on you....What else do you need? Do you think the sky is going to open and God is going to tell you: "Dump him?" Honey....Use your brains and call this quits!
You have to take control of your life---or he will do it for you and make you turn into a miserable, pathetic wreck.
2007-07-08 13:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sincerely hope that you are having difficulty with this one because of the flea problem you were telling us you were having earlier. Possibly some of the chemicals you have used have affected your thought process.
If this is serious, and not a made up story, why would you agree to marry a boy who is so disrespectful of you that he brings another girl into your household?
You need to rethink this quickly, having doubts when becoming engaged is not a very hopeful sign.
Good luck.
2007-07-08 17:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN. He is a cheater, loser, immature jerk, and disrespectful to you. Respect yourself and kick the jerk to the curb. Why would you put up with it? Ewwwww. Don't sleep with him again. Get a grown-up man who has some honesty and integrity. Sorry he turned out to be a loser, but glad you know it now before the ring and the kids. Do not get pregnant by this creep. I wish you many happy days far away from him. Good luck.
2007-07-08 13:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might be feeling a bit too comfortable around you or possibly looking for someone to just take care of him...he's not in love with you, that's for sure. If you don't run now, make it a long engagement so you can be sure before taking the plunge...
2007-07-08 13:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Sounds like he is really confused and his current actions are a contradiction to him asking you to get married. He could possibly regret it and is trying to sabotage the relationship.
2007-07-08 13:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long engagement, honesty or dump him.
2007-07-08 13:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by fellowsjs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. But use your brains too.
2007-07-08 13:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by s2a_s3z 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋