while hes in the middle of custody proceedings and battle, is it good to give him a little space and wait until everything is over?
2007-07-08 05:53:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you mean legally? As long as there is a legal separation (divorce has been filed and papers signed by the other spouse) then yes, he can see his girlfriend without risk of damaging his divorce case (in California, anyway).
Morally and ethically, it's just sad. Especially for the kids. They're the real victims in divorce.
2007-07-08 06:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kattrikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what he wants. If the divorcing man is interested in seeing his girlfriend, there is no reason why he shouldn't. If he needs time and space to deal with the divorce and custody issues, then he should break off the relationship until he is ready to date.
As far as the legalities of dating, it really has no effect on the divorce or custody proceedings unless the woman he is dating has a history of behavior that would make her unsuitable to be around the child(ren), such as drug use, abuse etc.
2007-07-08 12:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is the "other woman" that broke up your marriage with you, then you have a lot to lose by carrying on before the divorce is over. If this is someone you just met after the divorce proceedings began, then it's probably okay so long as you don't introduce her to the kids yet.
2007-07-08 13:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in my opinion. A man getting a divorce is still a married man. Also, it's never wise to put yourself smack dab into the middle of a court battle when you don't need to. You know, there are actually plenty of available men out there. Maybe you should think about moving on and meeting one of them.
2007-07-08 13:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are okay with the fact that you will not be the one who he will end up with, sure.
The first few women a guy dates the first year or two after divorce are called "bridges" out of the marriage----ask any counselor. The phenomenon is so common it even has a name.... rather like practice time.
If you don't mind that, and already understand it, and aren't looking to have this be very permanent, then, sure, your choice..... but nothing comes of those.......
2007-07-08 13:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While he's in the middle of custody proceedings and battle he is STILL married. You shouldn't be seeing him at all.
2007-07-08 15:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space is a good thing, unless you want to be the rebound girl who gets dumped when he either goes back to his wife or gets his head back on. He needs to sort out what went wrong in the first marriage before jumping into a new one. I see it all the time. It is usually a disaster. It is up to you, but I would steer waaaaay clear. Have him get back to you when his wounds aren't still bleeding. If you want to play Red Cross, then go for it.
2007-07-08 12:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you part of the reason he is divorcing? Anyway he is not divorced yes it would be wise to wait If you are part of the reason you deserve what you get which is a liar and a cheater
2007-07-08 13:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by jusayg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, back off and give him his space, and while you're doing that, keep this thought in the back of your mind: If he had you while he was married to her, what makes you think you're so darned terrific he'll never cheat on you? Get real.
2007-07-08 13:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what state you're in. Where I live it's still considered adultry and if the spouse can get pictures, witnesses, etc it's just more fuel for the fire. Back off for awhile until everything is done.
2007-07-08 12:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by jerry b 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋