met him on the web im with h im now we love eachother like we were ment to be together i fit into his world so easily he has two wonderful kids we all get along wonderfully we are thinking of getting married i need to go to out of town to do some things first but i dont want to leave him here and he has to go to work what am i going to do he cant e ven be out of the room thats too far away i love him more than i have ever loved anyone even the one i married i have to finish the divorce first before i can do anything else can i do it long distance
2007-07-08 05:52:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It also seems as if your scared to leave for a bit. Maybe I'm wrong, but if he loves you as much as you do him you have nothing to worry about. Plus it is healthy to be apart sometimes, makes us appreciate the other one. Keep in touch by phone and also once a day send him a text telling I love you. If it is true love he isn't going anywhere.
2007-07-08 06:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband on a BBS before the internet. He was 3/4 through with his divorce. BUT.. since the divorce was filed in a different state, he had to go there to finish the divorce. In my case, I was able to go with him.
In your case, he's NOT able to go with you.
#1: You MUST go complete your divorce in person and appear in the court where the divorce was filed.
#2: If you feel you cannot be out of the room he's in, that even THAT is too far, you are way TOO INSECURE to marry this man.
You don't go with him and stay in the same room all day when he's at work, so your comment about being out of the room he's in as being too far away either doesn't wash as true, or else shows a high level of insecurity. If you're that insecure, you need to deal with your problem before you get involved with him.
You need to be mature enough to do what it takes to end your first marriage, or you won't be mature enough to give to a new marriage what energy that marriage deserves.
The other impression you leave is, if you're not insecure, then you're jealous and don't trust him.
You need to go get your divorce finalized.
You need to take a good look at yourself and make sure you are ready for a new marriage.
2007-07-08 13:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your obsessive feelings are a bit unhealthy, and while a part of me understands a bit of your angst, you have to be realistic. If your relationship is truly meant to be, a little time apart will not change it. It could actually be a good thing. Without any sacrifice, people begin to take things for granted. This little separation could help you both to retain appreciation for what you have, far into the future.
You CAN do a divorce long distance. Check with your attorney.
2007-07-08 12:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jeri C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Think about living together before getting married again so soon.
Sometimes when we do things in haste, we later have regrets.
2007-07-08 13:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap...you can do it from anywhere. Ain't modern technology grand!
2007-07-08 13:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by YaWhoDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ermmm all the best
2007-07-08 12:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋