I would like some opinions on something?

Question

well I have a situation...last night when I went to pick up my daugther from her job..a guy came over to my car and asked to use my cellphone...I was like WTH? seems he wanted to call his girlfriend to see when she was leaving...told me where she worked and I told him they should be out soon because my daughter works there...He looked at me and said Are you Siearra's mother?' I said yes why?...he said you look just like her...she's my girlfriend thats who I am trying to call...well I got the biggest shock of my life cause I knew nothing about this guy...(My daughter never said anything about a boyfriend) I mean she is 20 and is an adult but still....this guy was just running his mouth....(he is white) I have no problems with that....but it kinda freaked me out....anyway my daughter calls me on her cell saying....why is he talking to you?....I told her what he told me and she said the guys been stalking her.....she is Not interested in him? what can I do?

I have dealt with situations myself like this..and I don't like the police cause of my past experiences with working with them in NY....the guy seemed ok...but if my daughter is not interested...and told him so...I would think he would get the picture.....any of you have any imput or anything from your experiences that are similar?

Yeah I can see I will be going to the police on this!

Faith Believer...You don't know me and I find it funny you call me Racist...You dont know what I have endured in NY and why I left NY to begin with......I could care less if the guy is green!...You ASSUME..if you couldnt answer the question maybe you shouldnt have....People who have no idea are always putting their noses in where they don't belong...but because they feel they are able to put in their two scents....and I find it is always something taken away from the question....grow up!

Answer 1

1. Stalkers have their OWN phones.

2. Stalkers KNOW their victims family details, work details, etc.

3. Stalking Victims rarely know their stalker.

4. It's way easier to SAY "he's a stalker", then upset mom cause he's sheet white

My daughter will probably hide a boyfriend or 3, because "I've" told her just as my father told me "YOU are ONLY allowed Other INDIANS" for her i even prefer it be a Cali skin.

I'm sure there's some white family out there in complete shock because their lil Trevor or Todd brought home Shaniqua. Gramma just had 'the big one'. . . .

So I wouldn't call jonny law just yet. I would put her big cousin on it though. Just to watch.

Answer 2

Girl, please have your daughter begin to document his activities (past and future) in a journal. It could be the key, just in case you do need to inform the authorities. Also, make sure she inform her superiors at work about this guy, as well as friends.

You can best believe that ole' boy knew that you were Siearra's mother. He's been paying attention.

What you stated has many red flags waving...watch out for more aggressive behavior. Rejection is not something that he handles well, and that spells danger.

Be blessed and go beyond the way you feel and at least notify the authorities of his actions. Think of your daughter, Sis.

Answer 3

Whew!
Not good. I wish you all the best.
Just to let you know I am white too. I hope that is OK?
BTW, the police are not Nazis. Having such an adversarial relationship with and harboring resentment for police officers seems odd.
You sound like a racist.
We are a nation of laws, it is not perfect and we have many flaws but it is still the best country anywhere.
If you are trying to be a law abiding citizen and the police harrass you then take action, but hating them for trying to keep sanity in such a diverse country with many different cultures is absurd.

I do feel for your daughter though. I hope the police can assist her. This is a dangerous situation.


Well, there you go. I have been corrected!
Instead of going immediately to the police for answers and solutions....you thought it best to get on your computer and take a survey and then waste at least an hour if not a whole night getting opinions! NICE
Then becoming defensive when they are not what you want to hear. Good luck with life. You are gonna need it.

Answer 4

Hey,
I know exactly what goes thru your mind when dealing with the Police ( been there done that...) but this really is a serious matter. It seemed to me he came up to you as if to DARE you to do anything.

Please tell your daughter to go NO WHERE alone, if he's laying in wait he now knows you know he's not her boyfriend. So next time he could be waiting around the corner out of sight.

Good luck! And I agree your daughter would probably be wise to notify her boss... man or woman, several sets of eyes are better than one.

Answer 5

Uh-oh. I would make sure someone is there to pick her up and that she is paying attention. Call the police and ask about stalking laws in your county/state and do whatever you need to do. She needs to go to her boss, go to the police and be very, very careful. That is awful. Take it really seriously and do everything you can to get distance between this guy and her, even if you need to go to court and have the psycho arrested. In our state, we have a "No contact" order for men like him. Stalkers often get very scary, especially when told no. I cannot stress how much to take this seriously and do everything you and she can do to protect her.

I had a stalker. He tried to kill me. He is in the State Psych Center now and I had to move because they keep letting him out. He left me things. He did things to my car. He broke into my house in the middle of the night and tried to kill me. My dog got him until the police came, but it was a horrific ordeal. Please protect your daughter.

Get your daughter personal protection as well such as mace, a cell phone and keys in hand anytime she is on the street, and self-defense.

Answer 6

This guy knew darn well you were her mother before he ever went up to you in your car.
I mean really, does anyone just walk up to a complete stranger and ask to use their cell phone? Everyone has their own cell phone these days.
He had to have known you were her mother, and that means that he has been watching her enough to see you and her together and interacting.
This is spooky, and could be serious.
I would look into getting a restraining order, and make sure your daughter doesn't go places by herself.
I would definitely do something before we all see your daughter on the evening news missing or worse.
DON'T IGNORE IT.

Answer 7

You'll probably do what you can to protect your daughter... without question.

Thing is.. keep your daughter in the loop; maybe she might have other ideas, and you both can talk it over.

Seems like this guy knows how to get things stirring..If the police won't be reliable in this case, then go tell your friends about it, have your daughter armed with mace or a stun gun... Maybe her workplace isn't safe nay longer as well...

Answer 8

gO TO THE POLICE STATION AND EXPLAIN TO THEM WHAT YOU EXPLAINED IN YAHOO (sorry bout the caps) and make a police report on this b4 something happens to your daughter! I know from experiance that stalkers can be very dangerous. Get your daughter to go with you to the police station. Basicly i agree with the above responses.

Answer 9

She should report him to the police... just in case, and to build a case, if she needs a restraining order. He may have been stalking you too... he may have known you were the mom.

Answer 10

ok ... maybe it wasnt coincidence that he ran into you and called your daughter... so this guy seems to be bad news.... call the cops and tell them whats going on... i wouldnt want this crazy guy around my daughter either... very very creepy to me...