We have been in a relationship on & off for 2 years. We got back together four months ago and he was a changed man for the better, However the past few weeks we have been rowing over silly things. We love each other and planned a life together. We had yet another silly argument over him cancelling our date to go out with his mates and he left me. He wont return my calls or text's and is putting all the blame on me. He has gone from wanting to Marry me to not wanting to speak to me ever again in 24 Hours. I am very upset and hurt and want him back. I know deep down he is no good for me but I love him and just want him back. How do I win him back?
2007-07-08 05:30:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"I know deep down he is no good for me but I love him and just want him back." I want you to say the first part of your sentence aloud before the word "but" 100 times. Yes, 100 times. Do not attempt to call or contact him again. Every time you're tempted to call him again, repeat.
He treated you very rudely by cancelling your date to go out with his buddies, and then blaming it on you. I think he *intentionally* did something he knew would piss you off, to give him an excuse to leave. People often engineer ridiculous arguments when they're fixin' to leave.
Any person who puts ALL the blame on you and says he doesn't ever want to talk to you again is too immature to marry. Please spare yourself any additional humiliation of not having your calls or texts returned. All he should "hear" from you is silence. It's far better for you to mourn the loss of your dream and move on. This will put you in a good position for meeting the real "Mr. Right."
2007-07-08 05:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh what an ego boost you give to this emotionally abusive man each time you call or text him.
You're the dog that keeps coming up for a pat on the head despite getting repeatedly kicked. Think about that.
You're better than that sweetie. You just have to find a way to start believing it.
The first thing I would do is stop all attempts to contact him. Then it will be you who gets to watch him squirm. The real trick here is when he finally comes knocking, YOU DON'T ANSWER!
This will be the hardest thing you'll ever have done but it is exactly what you need right now to prove to yourself that you matter, and you don't deserve to be treated this way.
Then, I think you should take some time off from dating and do some things for yourself- such as classes, trips with girlfriends, joining a gym and getting into the shape of your life. You know, things for YOU. You will come out on the other side as a strong, healthy woman who won't accept anything less than the utmost respect.
Best of luck. I hope you can stay strong. You already know what you have to do!
2007-07-08 06:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kattrikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why oh why would you want to marry someone you know is no good for you and who you spend so much of your time arguing with? Do you think he won't still go out with his mates after you're married?
Maybe you are high maintenance and he isn't getting enough of his own space. He's not ready to get married. Even if you manage to win him back, you'll probably drive him away again with the arguments and trying to change him. Why do you want to change the very person you fell in love with in the first place? This is probably why he doesn't want to answer your texts.
I'd stay away if I were him - sorry, might not be what you want to hear but you are trying to control him already. That's no basis for a future together.
2007-07-08 05:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
getting the highest number of points will win dude... you have to be the woman he "WANTS" to be with, and come home to, if your still not and it sounds like your not then you need to figure out what it is about you that drives him away. because any man will pass on his buds for the love of a good woman because his buds truthfully want the same and if they didn't understand your man wouldn't care anyways because he would have you. this is not about his mates it is about you dear, if you can get past your self and deal with who you are and make the changes you need to. then you will see him in a new simpler light and understand men better... or he's just a loser and you can forget all that i have said.... you have the power luv.
2007-07-08 06:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no intention of marrying you and as it stands now he doesn't want to be with you. It sounds almost like he doesn't know what he wants. You can win someone back who you never really had in the first place. Move forward instead of backward and leave him in the past.
2007-07-08 06:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help.Someone that says he treats me like crap but I can't live without him has a problem besides the guy. Get a good man for heaven's sake. Focus on you and your life. Answer why you would want an immature guy who can't make up his mind and wants to play with the boys more than you. I don't know what to tell you. It is giving me a headache.
2007-07-08 05:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you know that he's no good for you then just let him go. Find someone that will treat you great and will be good for you.
2007-07-08 05:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋