are you a survivor??

Question

I'm 28 years old and i'm in therapy(but will end in 2 weeks) because i suffered of child abuse(psychological and been in bad relationships with abusif men.I haven't achieve a lot.Wanted to know how do you cope or trive or over come negative experiences?? Where does your optimisim and self_esteem came from???(i don't have a good relationship with my family, don't have friends because they used me and don't have a boyfriend)

Answer 1

YOUR SITUATION MAKES ME WANT TO CRY. I AM A 26 YR OLD THAT WAS CHILD ABUSED AND MY EXPERIENCE IN FOSTER HOMES WAS NO BETTER. I FELT TRULY UNLOVED, BUT THE MISERY WAS MAKING ME SUICIDAL SO I JUST WANTED TO SAY F#C* THEM OUT LOUD. THEY WANTED ME TO FAIL AND I USED THEIR NEGATIVITY AS MY FUEL- MY FUEL TO BE A BETTER PERSON AND PUT THEM BEHIND ME. THEY STILL DO NOT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH WHAT HAPPENED TO ME, BUT THEY ARE IN DENIAL. WHEN I BECAME OF DATING AGE I GRAVITATED TO MEN THAT WERE ABUSIVE. THOSE MEN BROUGHT ME TO THAT UNHAPPY PLACE THAT I WAS EXPERIENCING WITH MY FAMILY, SO I HAD TO LET THEM GO BECAUSE THEY WERE RUINING EVERYTHING THAT I HAD WORKED HARD TO ACCOMPLISH. IT WON'T BE EASY BUT YOU HAVE TO FIRM. YES I AM A SURVIVOR- IT TAKES ME EVERYDAY TO SAY THAT I LOVE MYSELF AND BEFORE I ALLOW ANYONE TO USE ME I ALWAYS ASK MYSELF THIS QUESTION- " IS THIS GOOD FOR ME?, HOW WILL I BENEFIT FROM THIS SITUATION?, AND DO I WANT TO DO THIS FROM MY HEART?" IF YOU CAN NOT ANSWER ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS FOR YOURSELF THEN WHY DO SOMETHING YOU WILL FEEL CRAZY ABOUT LATER. PEACE BE UNTO YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY TO BECOME A SURVIVOR.

Answer 2

yes, i am a survivor. i come from an abusive family. i am under the care of a psychiatrist and have been the last 6 years. i suffer from schizophrenia,bi-polar,post tramatic stress syndrome, and severe anxiety. i started self medicating when i was 15 with alcohol. by the time i was 16 i was a full fledged alcoholic(dry for 22 years now) i have attempted suicide 3 times. i have diabetes, a digestive disease, and two srokes within the last two years. i am 51 years old the other of a 31 year old son and two beautiful grandchildren and have been married 32 years. it is always a constant battle but it can be won every day if it's what you really want. you just need a little help from your best friend. YOU. if you are not under a doctors care you need to be. whether it's a therapist, a psychologist or a psychiatrist. at 29 your life is just starting. i'm 51 and i'm still halfway up that hill that leads to middle age and i'm raring to go. BLESS you and may GODS HANDS hold you near to HIM.

Answer 3

well my friend, I too am a survivor. I had a rough time of it when I was in my twenty's and thirty's. But with age comes understanding of ones self and knowledge that what was done to you is not your fault. You just need to take it day by day or minute by minute. When you have a negative thought about yourself replace it right away with a positive one. Do not look to others for your self worth, and do not settle for the first guy that comes along. take the time to figure out who and what you want and then settle for no less than that. As for a friend... they are hard to find, I lost my best friend 17 years ago and have not found one since! Are you on anti-depressants? That will help your self esteem. you can always add me to your list of contacts and I willtry to help you if I can. I know this probley doesn't help much if I knew more words to say I would say them... good luck.. your friend :)

Answer 4

Family and friends may forsake you, but the Lord Jesus Christ will never forsake you. Put your trust in Him and let Christ see you through this rough time.

You must forgive those who have spitefully used you. Bitterness only festers and makes you ill. You must forgive.
Satan's battlefield is in the mind so when Satan brings up your past, tell Satan to take it to Jesus because you've casts your burden upon Jesus.

Let the Lord be your strength, your hope and your confidence. Trust in the Lord and let Him see you through this. He alone can change your troubled mind and fill it with hope, love and faith. Read the Bible each day and fill your mind with the ways of the Lord and give no room for the devil.
Christ works every time. What a wonderful Savior we have!

Answer 5

Hi there
I would like to think so?
You have to be strong not for others but for yourself.
Believe me I am there with you on this one.
My girlfriend past away in 2006, we have two lovely kids together, I have to be a survivor every day not for me but for our kids. you will get there. Try to learn something new each day that way it will take you mind off other things, also if you want to cry you cry if you want to laugh you laugh & remember you only get one life it's not like the movies there are no retakes.

Answer 6

Mine comes from helping people , just seeing a smile on their face makes me happy and motivates me to do more good.