you didn't fancy them or find them attractive but got on with them very well and they were like a good friend? Personally I think I need both attraction and friendship. x
2007-07-08 04:08:14 · 46 answers · asked by farleyjackmaster 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you answered your own question when you said "Personally I think I need both attraction and friendship".
If that is how you feel, then no you shouldn't marry someone that you don't feel that way about.
Eventually you will regret it.
Why settle for less than what you want?
You will find it eventually, when the time is right.
Just keep looking ;)
2007-07-08 04:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do what YOU want and feel is right for You.
I have been married twice. (both were disasters in the end, but a lot was my blame), But both times I got married because I like being with that person, and not because I found them attractive or anything. Everyone is unique an so different in lots of ways.
Looks are only skin deep. It's what is in the brain that matters, and I don't mean clever.
2007-07-08 05:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have many people (men) I like as friends but are not attracted in a sexual manner.I feel if you are not attracted to someone that is what keeps them a friend. Lot's of people get a long well but if you are not attracted to them than that is where it stops. So no I wouldn't I want to enjoy being attracted to the person I'm sleeping with.There have been a couple of times after getting to know someone that there personally made them more attractive to me that's a plus too.
2007-07-08 04:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know the person a long time and a friendship is the extent of the relationship,than that's that .However be sure that you give it enough of a chance, getting along with each other is the most important part of any relationship.Also you must realize that in time you may become more attracted to your friend than you thought possible..
2007-07-08 04:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I definitely wouldn't. Although looks aren't everything it is a critical part of a healthy marriage. Sitting across the table and realizing how sexy your spouse is or gazing at them while they are busy doing something simple and noting how attractive they are is the start of a healthy sexual appetite for your spouse which is also an important factor in a marriage. Marriage is not all about sex but could you imagine a LIFETIME of passionless sex with a person you are not attracted to? Goodness knows I couldn't. Looks aren't everything but they are important. And a person doesn't have to be super attractive, just whatever is attractive to you.
2007-07-08 04:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
IMO, needs to be both... just from what I've observed over many years in people who are really happy, they have a great attraction for each other and are each other's best friends.
I've also heard of more good friends who became sexually attractive over time. It "seems" that those who went purely with the physical initially don't seem to last that long.
But.. if I was good friends with someone and not physically attracted to them, nope, I would never marry them. They deserve to be with someone who has both.
2007-07-08 04:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by DSatt57 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't marry someone I didn't love. Physical attraction is important in a relationship, if you gag whenever you see them, not going to last. Friendship is VERY important. Don't feel you have to get married to be happy, find the right girl, then do it!
2007-07-08 04:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and he/she would both be happy just settling, then go for it. But if you think that you need true love, or less romantically, "attraction," as you put it, then DO NOT get married. In order for a marriage to work, the couple has to have similar goals for life, and if you're not on the same page, then it won't work. Do you really want to commit your life to someone whom you don't love?
2007-07-08 04:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think attraction is a major factor... friendship is also important.
we have to step back and look at the whole person... and talk with them about their goals, desires and life wishes... children and family, how they want and expect to live after marriage.
get to know the person by communicating. if we just get married without common life goals, it may not work.
take care... all the best
2007-07-08 04:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt, u marry somebody becasue you love them and want to spend the reat of your life with them. so if you dont even fancy them or fynd them attractive then wh wud u thnk of marryn them at all. so man people nowadays r not marryn for the right reasons n this is wrong they are marry for every other reason apart from the fact that they are in love with the person, becasue you want companonship is not good enough.
2007-07-08 04:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by ladytalabi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋