I keep seeing this question about how dumb women are for thinking they can change men. Do some men think they can change women? Why or why not?
2007-07-08 03:53:43 · 7 answers · asked by edith clarke 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Subtlely and slowly over time, people can change each other for both the better and the worst. I've been married just over 30 years and for a marriage to survive that long, each partner makes compromises. After time, these compromises become permanent changes. My wife has taught me to be more spontaneous. I have taught her not to agonize over things in the past she cannot change. I could give you dozens of other examples of how we have changed each other. In our case, the changes were positive and willing. Unfortunately, I've also seen spouses lead each other into destructive behaviors. In summary, in a long term relationship, spouses--just like long time friends--can change each other.
2007-07-08 04:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men have tried for centuries to change a woman the way they feel the woman should be, but many have failed. I think it's an ego thing, or else the old addage that the man rules the roost, so to speak. It may have worked in Pilgram times, but it won't work in today's society. Women want to be equal to men and many don't want to be told how to act, dress, or socialize. Don't forget, we were all raised differently with different views on life in general. If we wanted a man to tell us what to do, we would stay home with our fathers. I do know some women will try to change just to please the man she loves but it seems once the man has changed on thing about that woman, they go on to more and it gets them in trouble. My husband has changed me in some ways for the better, but he never dictated that I should do certain things. We have been married for 28 yrs and he said he like me from the beginning because I spoke my mind, while he was very meek. Now, he's like me in that respect and I'm glad. So I guess in the end it depends on the woman herself, if she feels the man's advice is good, then she will try, but if the man demands that she do or change certain ways, that's another things. The man has to be gentle in the way he approaches a woman about changing her ways. Just my opinion, I'm sure others will say a lot different, especially the guys. I don't want to offend anyone, so please forgive me if anyone feels insulted, it's just the way I think.
2007-07-08 04:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Memere RN/BA 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They think that but they really cant. But I also think both men and women should be ashamed for thinking they can change a person by who they are or what they do. Thats not right, perioud. Its just flat out dumb for thinking that. That person is who they are and they arent going to change if a person makes them or wants them too. Hope this gets the point across...
2007-07-08 04:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think more women try to change men, I think men just hope their women don't change.
2007-07-08 04:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's almost impossible to change anybody. We seem to obey a personal set of characteristics that glue us into being who we are. Parts of us can be developed, or neglected, and some talent or fault can appear mid way through life, but our old age seems to be an essence of what we have always been. We are the same, only more so.
2007-07-08 04:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Nope, too much effort on our part. If only women were as wise…
2007-07-08 04:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, some men do. I've experienced it first hand.
2007-07-08 04:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by Viv 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋