Im really good friends with this guy i know through college!!we've also been working together for the past 4 months. Im single and he has a girlfriend of over 2 years!I've only ever met her once (cos he lives ina diff part of de country) and she's lovely.
U see the problem is I really like him,more than i've evr liked anybody else. we are both unbelievably honest with each other and he knows how i feel abt him. any time we go out he tries it on wit me and wants me to kiss him but i won't because of his gf. Then the next morning he always apoligises for his behavior. him and his gf recently broke up for a short time (nothing happened between me and him durin this) but through it all it was always me he turned to for a "sholder to cry on"!
Its just killin me knowing that i cant be with him!
He knows I like him and he also knows the only reason I wont kiss him is because he has a girlfriend!
2007-07-08 03:48:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good for you!
Stick to your guns.
Don't let him kiss you or get intimate with you at all, as long as he is still in a relationship with someone else.
He probably cares for you a great deal too, and maybe he gets confused at times.
So he probably wants to try things with you, but not end his other relationship, in case things don't work out between you two.
Nope, that isn't any kind of good relationship.
Even puts pressure on your friendship.
Not to mention how he's not being fair to his girlfriend either. I feel bad for her too :(
I know it seems like you really like him, but think about it, he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend.
So what makes you think he wouldn't treat you the same way?
Just something to think about ;)
2007-07-08 04:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you truly feel (the whole story) about how you won't make a move because you know he would hate you for it in the end(bcause of his gf). If you really only want him to be happy, which may be the horrible truth, tell him that as long as he's happy you'll be ok(but ONLY IF THAT'S TRUE)
tell him how much you love him and if he loves you just as much & more than his gf he should be with you not her
Good Luck!!!
2007-07-08 10:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lily Luna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stick to your decision to not get involved physically while he is committed to his gf.
I have to tell you that I would be hesitant to ever get into a relationship with a man who has shown you he would not hesitate to cheat on his gf as this man has already offered to do with you.
The fact that the two of you have not had sex yet, well, he has still invested a lot of honesty and feelings towards you, and in my book that is still cheating. Please be careful with this man.
There are so many other good men out there that are NOT in a committed relationship, I suggest you try one or two of them instead.
2007-07-08 10:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Pixie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well mabe he's just upset about the break up and usually iwait a few weeks maybe months before i have another boyfriend. sure he tried stuff on you but after someone breaks up with you u get a feeling of saddness even if u didnt like the person u were going out with or even if u r the 1 breaking up. but he may just need time. and when you think hes ready then u can ask him and if he says no he may n ot have feelings for u the way u have for him.
2007-07-08 10:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by emmypop 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going out with him you are helping him cheat on his gf AND leading him on. He's expecting to get into your pant eventually, and the fact that you still go out with him gives him great encouragement to continue his pursuit.
So at this point you are in the position of trying to break up his relationship with his gf.
Hope this helps you clarify the situation. Good LUck
2007-07-08 10:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think for a sec about what u just said
he wants u and he wants his gf so dont be so fool for not seeing what is going on
dont give him the kiss look for someone who really wants u
not a guy need both of u
2007-07-08 10:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dr.Tee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the honorable thing. This man is a cheater. If you keep up this friendship, sooner or later you'll succumb. Best to stay away from him and look for someone to whom you won't be a second string or temporary relief object. You deserve more than this!
2007-07-08 10:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself a hypothetical: if you did become his girlfriend, how would you like it if he behaved this way with some other girl while you were together? You can do better. Move on.
2007-07-08 10:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you need to move on.
you have issues with his girlfriend, and besides, if he broke up to be with you, this would make you "the rebound girl"... do you really want to be one of those? (believe me, it's not fun).
he is also urging you to kiss him while he has a girlfriend? this is a sign he doesn't respect girlfriends... just my opinion.
2007-07-08 11:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think eventhough he know it already,he just cant express himself cause of he think you two are really good freinds and he dont want to break it.so,why you wont try to tell him then so it migth work it if you really like him.
2007-07-08 11:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋