Here is my dilema. I have been off work for 1 year. I started mat. leave early due to illness. So my little girl is only 10 months old. I start work tomorrow.
I am really sad about it. I cry thinking about not being here to feed her lunch, putting her down for naps...and so on. I just cannot get over the feelings of guilt that I am having...now the only GOOD thing, is that my Mother will be looking after her. She loves my Mother to pieces. So I know that she will be looked after, loved and probably spoiled...
I went through a really tough time after I had my little girl and was told I was not allowed to have any more children...could this be why I feel so guilty...I wont get a chance to have another baby so I want to do things right this time...or are these feelings PERFECTLY normal...I am only going to be working part-time...
I just want her to be happy and ok with me not being home all the time...HELP HELP HELP...lol lol
2007-07-08 03:43:56 · 8 answers · asked by BEAK72 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You are so lucky! I only got 12 weeks for my mat. leave. Your feelings are totally normal, I would question if you did not feel guilty. It will take a period of adjustment, but you will be fine! Expect a lot of tears, and a difficult time re-entering your workplace. You may also feel relief to get back to the "real" world, that is fine, too. Consider yourself double blessed to have a Mother that is willing to care for her! Daycare if scary! I hope you have a supportive husband and family, you will need it. Give yourself time to feel every emotion that will come up, and work through them. After some time, you will know if you have made the right decision or not.
2007-07-08 03:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal to feel that way the first time you prepare yourself to be separated from your baby on a semi-regular basis. I had a very hard time leaving my then-5 month old son at home with my husband for a few hours a day when I started back at school, and I had an even harder time leaving all 3 of my kids at home with him when I started working part time, even though it was only 4 hour shifts! It's probably going to be rough for both of you for a week or two, but it will get easier fast, and it should definitely help both of you feel better about things since Grandma will be the one babysitting. The fact that you're working part time is wonderful, also, it's great that you can be home with her most of the time! Good luck, I hope this transition goes smoothly for you!
2007-07-08 10:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know want you going through. I was hard for me to go back to work when my youngest was eight months hold. I would stay 4 months. My mom was watching over him till he was 8 months then he had to start going to daycare. It really though. And I am still him and now he have and I have a three year old has well. My oldest was born with a birth defect and had a special bottle to use. Leaving the him at daycare was tough. My mom went to check on him and things. I know hard it is. I couldn't leave my child behind. But working part time would be fine. It would give you a little break from your child. Then when you get back your child would be smiling and see you back. You would be fine and get the chance for him to see grandma that he loves to much.
2007-07-08 10:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Proud mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've read that many women who in the beginning feel bad about it, get over it really quickly and many women who don't go back to work because of baby, end up hating themselves for it.
I personally don't want to work EVER, but that's just me being spoiled. My baby is due in August and I want to be home with her always, but then I worry I will get bored. Ideally I'd like a REAL work-at-home job.
2007-07-08 11:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by nalv420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal for you to feel this way, it's very hard to leave your kids. My son is 7 and I really don't like to be away from him for very long. Thank God you have your Mom to take care of her while your working. Everything will work our just fine. Things will get better everyday that your away from her and remember it's only for a short time.
2007-07-08 11:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal, its hard to be with the baby 24/7 then not be with her. My mother will be watching my baby also, I will be returning to work when he is 10 wks old. Be thankful that you know your little girl will be taken care of, fed and held when she needs to be. If you have to work, then you do, just keep telling yourself you are working for her benefit not yours.
2007-07-08 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Skylers Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a Grandpa's perspective. My son and his wife, have given me two grandchildren. They drop them off, and my wife and I babysit during the day. When one or both parents come to pick up the kids, they light up, and are happy to see them. The kids have their stories to tell about the day, and the parents listen. It will be tough at first, but you need the time away, and when you get back, your daughter will have her stories to tell. Just listen, it's a form of sharing, that you'll both appreciate.
2007-07-08 11:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so u are joking? (w / the lol lol)
babys gotta have a future and only money can provide it
u a single mom?
2007-07-08 11:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋