i dont think im in love with my boyfriend anymore but i cant find the courage to leave. we live together and he pay's all the bills. i have it made but im not in love with him anymore, nothing is there. i feel so bad for pretending. but when i find the courage to tell him i just cant seem to get out. every morning when i wake up i look at him and i have no feelings and i ask myself why are you still here. i dont know what to do. how am i going to tell my family im moving out? he's a great guy but im just not into it anymore.
2007-07-08 02:17:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You owe it to him, and yourself, to muster up the courage to do what you have to do! He deserves better than to be used, and you deserve better than to share life with someone you don't love. DO what you have to do.....and the sooner, the better!! Good Luck!
2007-07-08 02:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. See, its difficult to control yourself when you come to know that someone you dearly love, does not love you anymore, you can also understand that . But you have to take this step & tell him the truth. What if you won't pay your bills anymore, you will manage. What if he comes to know that you are just pretending, he will become broken hearted, he won't belive anyone anymore in his whole life.
Don't make his life miserable, if you tell him, he will be hurt, but time will reduce his pain. You can't pretend for whole life, if you do so you won;t be happy for sure.
Take off that load from your heart. And for your family, it will be hard to accept, but oneday they will understand you because they want your happiness.
Oneday you will meet your Prince Charming whom you will really love and he will do the same.
ALL THE BEST.
2007-07-08 02:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by ach_mayya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, this is a tough situation. you obviously care about his feelings or it wouldn't be so hard.
but you have to be honest with him. don't continue pretending if there is nothing there. how would you feel if he were the one who "fell out of love" with you, but continued to pretend?
you need to have an honest talk with him. tell him you do care for him, and you know it's going to hurt, but in the long run, it is the best thing to do.
and from a "mom" point of view...remember this the next time you want to live with your boyfriend. It is SOOOO hard when it doesn't work out to have to leave a shared house/apartment.
you'll just have to tell your family. honesty is best. they'll understand. :)
2007-07-08 02:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Esjae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you wait the harder it will be. Stop being lazy and materialistic and tell him the truth. Its not fair to him! Especially if he is a great guy, be honest with him.
2007-07-08 02:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by pupluv0410 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up your stuff and leave. Then tell him. It will be tough but if you truly want to leave, you have that right. The rest is just comfort.
2007-07-08 02:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋