why do i treat my man so horribly,yet he stays?

Question

i know it's resentment over some other issue, but i want to stop living this way.

i want to be with him, i just want to stop "treating" him.

Answer 1

Then you've got to be the one who makes a change. If you don't want to treat your husband horribly, than stop.

We all have certain things that we resent... or buttons that can be pushed by our partners. If that's what he's done, you need to tell him so he will stop pushing that button and you'll stop treating him so badly. Think of how much better your life would be if you could let stuff go, you know?

I would suggest you read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura.

Women have an AMAZING amount of power over their men... if they know how to control that power and tap into it... they can pick what direction their marriage goes in.

Good luck to you and your husband.

Answer 2

Without knowing both sides, you are the one that needs help. Even if he doesn't, you need to go to couseling and address your issues. When you do, then you can get through whatever made you feel that way in the first place.

As for your man, he probably loves you and is willing to stick it out because of that reason. Good luck.

Answer 3

You have problems you need to deal with, and you really should go to a psychologist for counseling. He stays with you because he loves you in spite of how bad you treat him and he is probably hoping you'll change. Of course, there's also the possibility that he doesn't have a good self-image also.

Answer 4

if you treating him that way on purpose then you are the one in the wrong. if you dont want him no more, just talk to him about it. i know its hard, but you got to let him know the truth. and hes staying because hes loves you and he wants to work out the problem just as bad as you do.

Answer 5

simply answer good guys like bad girls and good girls like bad boys. also if you know that you treat him this way you may want to stop before you loose the person you care about.

Answer 6

Well, then stop living this way!

Treating your man horribly is making you look like the fool, not him, because that's your man. Don't you take care of yourself and anything in your life?

I take good care of myself, my house, my car, my job and especially my man. He's mine and keeping him happy will naturally make him keep me happy and that will keep us together for the rest of our lives.

You certainly don't love him because your probably making him miserable and eventually he will take off.

Answer 7

well i dont buy it, i think your telling us this b.s about a past resentment, and how bad you treat your man... you treat him bad because you choose to, and he chooses to let you, if i were him, you would be one lonely woman, then you can treat yourself like crap, and see how it feels. you acknowledge how you treat him, so that tells me you do it on purpose, if it was unconciously, you wouldnt be telling us this, i suggest you seek psychiatric help, before you end up alone.

Answer 8

He obviously loves you then. Want your problem to go away? Stop treating him horribly, done.

Answer 9

Get yourself some counseling and thank your lucky stars you have a man that loves you very much.

Answer 10

see if he stays if you cut him off in bed
you're really unhappy with you, more than him, otherwise you'd do the right thing and accept him or cut him loose, you're just treading water
here's a tip...ask yourself what you would do if you won the $100mill lotto tomorrow
now, go do that