Another man fancies my wife?

Question

I have a question. It is about my wife being out and a man approaching her. She made it clear she was married and not to get the wrong impression. He said that was fine and he liked to meet new people and talk. She said after that he did nothing inappropriate. She said he was really nice and interesting. This made me jealous. I asked if he was handsome and she said he is.

I told her he still has the same thing on his mind and was just trying a different approach. She told me she knows where to draw the line. My question is if a woman knows a man fancies her, can it be just casual after that? The woman knows that it's not just innocent conversation because she knows his original intention. My fear was that if she thought he was nice she might let her guard down and create an opening for him. It bothers me that the attention might have felt flattering to her, making her feel sexy. She sounded like she really did find him exciting and enjoyed talking to him.

Answer 1

every woman enjoys being made to feel attractive at times, doesnt mean she is a bimbo and going to jump into bed with the first guy that pays her a compliment

Answer 2

You are in big trouble my friend. He has got more planes for your wife than you have for the whole year. Its called "bird dogging" and thats what he is doing. If a man wants a women the best ones are married. So there he is flattering her. Telling her is is a friend, he understands her and treats her like a godess. Man you are now in trouble. Its not your wifes fault, this is how life works and you have just become a victime of your own ways. Wrong or right you will have to now start over with your wife and make life very exciting for her otherwise bye bye. Good luck.

Answer 3

When I was married, I found myself in the same situation as your wife on a few occasions. When I told my husband he became very jealous and would make really horrible comments and it made me feel that he didn't trust ME! I stopped telling him in the end but I was never unfaithful to him (although he would have deserved it as he used to try to keep me down and make me think I was unattractive). His previous girlfriend had been unfaithful to him many times so even though I knew this was the cause of his behaviour, it wasn't fair that he took it out on me.

Eventually we split up. I have been with my new partner now for 6 years. Again I have interest from other men and indeed, I go out for a drink with them as friends. They know I will never be unfaithful although they will still try to flatter me. my partner knows about this and he really trusts me which is such a lovely feeling. he nevermakes derrogatory remarks towards me and always tells me how much he loves me, thinks I'm sexy and actually likes the fact that other men fancy me because he's the one who has "got me". You should tell your wife it's okay to go out for a drink as you trust her - tell her it's very flattering that other men fancy his wife and how lucky you are to have her. Make her feel good about herself and if she knows you trust HER, she won't break that trust. You know men will give chase and that some of them can't be trusted but you can trust yor wife so don't spoil things by giving her a hard time. make sure you go out regularly with each other and keep the spark alive!

Good luck - although you shouldn't need it - just stop being insecure and jealous or you'll drive her away.

Answer 4

ohh man you have nothing to worry about... she told the man she is married if you have a nice looking wife,man are going to get interested but I think your mostly jealous and she likes for you to feel that.. it makes her feel loved. but don't take it to far what you do is romance her show her that you too finds her attractive and that you think she is beautiful, and tell her baby I'm worried and a bit jealous about this guy we women go for this she will comfort you and tell you how much she loves you.. and that you don't have nothing to worry about. she done the right thing by telling this guy she is married it shows that she is loyal so don't go crazy accusing her of being unfaithful OK? This would present a problem and a lots of unnecessary arguments. Keep your cool and your eyes open this creep my be crazy and you are right he is approaching a different way with the same thing on mind.. but keep your faith on your wife I don't think is her you should worry about is him he might be a creepo..if he continues to try to make friendship with your wife calmly talk to him and tell him you don't like the attention he is giving your wife, tell him there is nothing worst than a home wrecker, and you wish for him to stop. but don't push this on your wife she is not at fault. good luck.

Answer 5

you know, it's about trust. on your part & on her part. if you love her, you'll trust her to do the right thing. every woman finds it flattering if a man seems to be attracted to her. but you might just be feeling a jealousy streak based from nothing. if she really loves you she won't let the man talk her into letting her guard down. i think it's really nothing, so she's just being casual about. as i have said with all the askers that has similar queries, talk to your partner seriously and sincerely, and tell him/her what's bothering you. being honest is a good way to start eliminating future problems. she just sounded like she finds the man exciting, but does she really feels anything close to what she feels for her husband? for you? communication is the only smart solution to problems like this, and i hope you straighten things out with your wife, andpray this is just a misunderstanding. good luck and god bless your marriage. =)

Answer 6

She can't stop talking to every man just because he finds her attractive, she would become a very ignorant lady. Of course she feels flattered by the attention. Maybe it's a sign that you should give her a little more attention yourself. Every woman needs to be reminded that she is attractive and sexy, just like every man does.

Answer 7

I'm a rather attractive woman, men have looked at me in ways they wouldn't look at their sister ever since I was 14.
I haven't slept with them. Many men have fancied me, that doesn't mean I fancied them. I suppose some of them hung around hoping I would change my mind, but if you aren't interested....you aren't interested. I have a few male friends, they used to be interested, but over the last 30 years they have come to realize the only thing I'm interested in is friendship.
I'm older now of course, but I still have my admirers, even though I have been faithfully married for 28 years.

Answer 8

I am sure that she did enjoy talking to him, every woman enjoys attention esp from handsome men, but that doesn't mean that she would cheat on you with him. She obviously wants to stay faithful as she told him that she was married from the very beginning. You need to have some faith in your wife, she seems like she is, in fact, intelligent enough to know where to draw the line. Why shouldn't your woman feel sexy. Sometimes, when we go out and get attention from other guys and it makes us feel sexy, we get to come home and "take it out" on our husbands, they reap the benefits, if you know what I mean...................

Answer 9

I understand how you feel, it has happened to me. Your wife is mature and wise and is to be trusted and I think she's more tactful than what you think. I understand your worries but voicing off your worries too much may sometimes push her to doing something not good instead of being on guard because she knows she's married and respects that marriage. So try to tone down your fear coz that fear can make her do what you fear although I think it's unlikely.

Answer 10

As she says, she knows where to draw the line. the thing is that after marriage a guys feelings for the wife dampen. the dating days and compliments are gone. the other has made his mind clear to her, she knows he likes her. women thrive on compliments. you know that deep within and thats probably missing in your marriage. thats whats making you insecure.
keep the romance alive in your marriage, and you wont feel insecure. dont over react right now. keep an eye, keep ur ears open, dont get hyper, keep your cool. and discuss the matter as if its casual - dont accuse or blame her. assure your wife u love her, and shes important to you. to keep a relationship alive, assurance is necessary.