my husband has signed up to them to talk to other women. what should i do?
also my 8 yr old son was the one who told me about the websites that he was on.
2007-07-07 23:58:37 · 10 answers · asked by jo p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's your 8 yr old doing on those websites? Send him to bed!
2007-07-08 00:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well ? #1. Why were you looking through the history ?
#2. Usually the history, if it's deleted, won't pull up on the computer, in cases of IE7, ??? it depends on how it is setup, and if it writes to a log.then again if you are looking into the recycle bin.
Many scenarios.... which is yours and why ?
Does your husband have a history of un-faithfulness ? Is that why u were checking the deleted history, I could go on and on. But I won't.
Bottom line, maybe he's bored, needs a little ... I don't know something to activate his mind. I can only speculate, and I'M NOT SAYING !!!! HEY, HERE AM I !!!!! IN NO WAY !! Just saw your question, and it reminded me of a relationship that was ended in March of this year and I'm still in love and miserably missing the love of my life, that set me up !!!
I saw yours as the same "type" situation. 'Cept, I fell for all the lies and bullshit, till I had a friend (extremely well versed with any situations when it came to computers) who told me what MY partner was doing to ME !!! I was being set up for almost a year !!!!
I'm still missing and dying in my heart !!
Anyway if you need to vent ? I am on-line only every so often, and I have it setup to e-mail me directly when I get a response from this site, this is the first time I even ventured onto this location with Yahoo.
I only hope that you're not hurting in the process. If you are ? Then I can understand your pain.
Y.jernigan
2007-07-08 00:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by yvette_jernigan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's disgusting that your son had to had to be the one to find that out. My husband also went through a thing where he spent some time on the personals. I didn't confront him right away, and then when I felt up to dealing with it, he had quit. Later on when he started to look at some porn, I caught him and really gave him hell. He has been behaving him self now for several months and things are even better in or relationship. He had a friendship with one of the women he met, but I'm quite sure they never met or talked on the phone. It broke my heart, but things are pretty good now. My advice to you is to make copies of everything that you can. The emails he has exchanged, his profiles, saved profiles of other women, just anything and everything. Assuming that you can figure out his passwords. To check for other websites he has been on you can look up the cookies, if you haven't already. Just to get an idea where else he has been. I know how it feels to make this discovery. It just makes you completely sick for a while. Luckily when I confronted my husband he confessed to everything I already knew about, so I believe him, and our marriage has been going well. Good luck with everything.
2007-07-08 00:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, so, son found the websites. Nice.
Yeah, Dad needs to grow up. He needs to at least be smarter that the 8 year old, for goodness sakes. ....
Let Dad know you don't want Junior finding that stuff on the computer again. And leave it at that.
Then, just sit back and see if it happens again.
If it happens again, address it on the other level: How it is about to impact his marriage.
Um, you might want to let Junior know that what Dad did is not the right thing, but that people sometimes make a wrong decision. Even Dad.
2007-07-08 02:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that his son found his websites and if he is going to cheat to at least hide it better.
Talk to a lawyer, your marriage is over.
2007-07-08 01:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be that he has lost intrest in the relationship and wants a change. Could mean that his feelings have changed. Best thing to do is confront him on it and ask what you have done to deserve this, and why he no longer has intrest in you. ask him what you can do to put the spark back into the relationship. There is always a chance that he is a compleate ****** and needs more than one woman to please him. I have learned that once things start rolling down hill and get good momentum they keep rolling down hill. I have never seen things roll up hill. If things start to fall apart even more. Get divorced before it gets to bad and you get realy hurt.
2007-07-08 00:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! your son found the websites. It's time to have serious talk with your husband and revaluate your marriage.
2007-07-08 00:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go.
He is more than likely seeing these people outside the home.
There is someone else who loves you. Go find them.
He is being disrespectful to you and your 8 year old son.
2007-07-08 00:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and talk to him about what you saw and heard.
Make sure to keep your son out of you and your husbands probablems! My parents have been divorced since before I was born and I know how it feels to be in between two angry parents...
2007-07-08 00:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sit down and talk to your husband, dont end your marriage because of something like this instead make all possible to make your marriage more happier and fun! But do tell him that its very wrong and ask him to put himself inm your place! good luck!
2007-07-08 01:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*´`*•. mommy♥*´`*•. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋