I contacted someone from the past a while ago who indicated he didn't want a present relationship with me, yet my friend said he was just playing hard to get. She continues to push me to contact him again - she won't quit and insists that her version of events is the correct one, not mine. She is very insistent in all she does - there is no arguing with her. We are both in jobs that require us to insist on our own way, but still, I wonder why she is pushing me on this situation, when I was there - she wasn't. I have refused to respond to her e-mails on the situation or I have simply changed the subject and responded in an indirect way, and she calls me on it and asks why I didn't respond on point to the question of the relationship. Why is she like this - has anyone ever had a friend - who is otherwise very understanding and kind - act like this?
2007-07-07 23:15:35 · 4 answers · asked by sweetpea 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She is 20 years older than him and is not interested in him. He is well-known in the area, so maybe she feels having us together will improve her social life? Anyway, it's her insistence that is really causing trouble and I don't know why she is like this and I don't know why I listen to her. She is getting me into trouble.
2007-07-07 23:30:00 · update #1
If your friend from the past clearly indicated he did not want a current friendship, then that is who you should honor. Your new friend just hates being wrong, she needs to be told firmly that the matter is no longer open for discussion. Then the ball will be in her court. You may have to reduce the amount of time spent with her if she persists, as then she will be clearly ignoring your feelings.
2007-07-07 23:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by sbyldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um well i dont know why she is doign that.
You should trust your instincts and not contact this person if you feel that they do not want to pursue a relationship or friendship at this time.
maybeyou should try asking her this exact question in a casual way. like next tiem she brings is up say : i have told you before that i dont think that they want a relationship, why are ou pushing this?
2007-07-08 06:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by shea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your own wisdom on this one, Control your own destiny , do not let someone else do that for you.
Sounds to me like your friend has sight with no vision of what her friend wants to do. no respect for your choices either.
Stick to your guns on this one
Have a great week hope this helps
2007-07-08 07:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by ann s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has a thing for him and is using you?
2007-07-08 06:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋