Is it right for a man to become physical with a woman just because she refuses to make love?

Question

This is the only thing we really clash over if i genuinely don't feel well and say no he gets very physical with me, is that right? should i put my own feelings aside and give him what he wants?

Answer 1

NO, It is NEVER RIGHT for a man to hit or be abusive to a woman. NO matter what his reasoning is. If this happens call the coppa's. File charges, and get a restraining order against him. If he is that horny he can see Mary Palm and her four sisters. They ARE ALWAYS willing to give a helping hand. And tell HIM I said this. He doesn't like it he can come get physical with me. I'll show him how REAL men handle physical contact. Good Luck.

Answer 2

It is not right for men to become physical. This is a matter of understanding each other which should be built over the period of knowing each other. If there is true love a man should respect his woman's feelings and not be egoisted and try to go his way. This goes also for a woman. Love makes it that they understand each other and go physical when they feel to express their love towards each other.
In marriage a man/ woman should be open for each other but that doesn't mean without respecting the other. After all love can be shown without going physical. Without understanding and feeling one with your partner it is never real love. So one has to be patient while the other accept this as respect. Egoism should never have a place in a relationship.

Answer 3

The answer is not a simple "NO, It's Not Right".

Lucas was right when he said he believed it is = RAPE !

If you truly examine your relationship, you will find that everything else is not alright, with only 1 thing being wrong......... he gets physical when he doesn't get sex from you. (Reason: Sex now, what will his next reason be????????)

How does he react to you when you are in the mood, and he doesn't genuinely feel well, or is just too tired, or not in the mood ? Does he give you what you want ?

You are in an UNHEALTHY:
Emotional, Mental, Physical, Relationship.

In order for you to be able to tell that on your own, you need to start paying closer attention to things in your relationship.

Examples:
Does he approve or disapprove of things you do, say, wear, the way your hair looks, people you like to be around, the way you might look at one of his friends.........thinking you might be flirting when you know you aren't.....telling you that he only gets to feeling that way because he cares so much about you.

Does he criticize you when the two of you are alone, ........... or when you are with others, and then try to cover it over by saying stuff like, " Hey Babe, you know I'm just playing with you !"

Does he help out with things you ask him to, like laundry , cleaning, shopping, dishes, picking up after hisself, or does he give you some kind excuse, or does he tell you how you do it so much better than he does.
Or does he try to make you believe it is your duty to do all the crappe on your own? Because maybe he works and you don't or for whatever reasons he can find to use.

If you have any children around, does he contribute fairly to their care, does he ever give you a break away from the children on your own?

Is your relationship the type that he does as much for you, as he asks or demands you do for him? Do you find your energy is spent thinking about whether or not you are making or keeping him happy ?
Are you fooling yourself......... by telling yourself......... that it makes you feel so good to do everything for him.

Is he your biggest cheerleader for the things you feel you want to do in life ?

If you answer yes to any of the above, you are only one of the many millions of women who are caught in relationships just like yours.

Given a little more time, or him being in just the wrong mood about something that doesn't have anything to do with you.........you could and most likely will find that the abuse will indeed increase.

Farah Fawcett starred in a movie, A True Story, called.........THE BURNING BED. In the end the woman she played, felt she had no choice left but to kill her man to get herself and her three small children away from him.
HE ALSO BECAME PHYSCIAL WHEN FARAH'S CHARACTER REFUSED HIM SEX.

Sorry if this seams rather long, but I have spent many years working to help women like you realize what is happening before they become a static in the court files, or a body in a grave.

You only have one life to live, share it with someone who really loves and cares about you and how you feel.

The next time you're genuinely feeling ill, or just don't want to give into him, pack your bags before he has a chance to get physcial and leave. If he is that damn horny, tell him there are still a lot of street corners open for business!!!!!!!!!
But be sure you are already in your car with the doors locked, and the engine running, before you tell him that, 'cause you know you ain't gonna get out of there any other way. (lol)

It is never right for either a man to strike a woman, or a woman to strike a man.
Hope This Helps !!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Where's he at? I hate a man who gets physical with a woman! You are a human with a mind that works freely,if he can't take no then I'd show him the road. That's what love is about,sharing and couping with one another feelings. Were all special and unique. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

I will say sorry for the long answer now -

NO - it is NOT right for a man to become physical with a woman just because she refuses to make love or give into sexual demands from her husband - If he becomes physical with you it is considered marital rape or intimate rape. It doesn't matter if it is the only thing you clash over NO means NO and your partner should deal with that, or risk you losing trust in him. A ring and a marriage license does not give him the right to force you to do anything you do not wish to do and he should respect your feelings as much as you respect his. You should get out of this relationship before he becomes anymore physical with you over other things, and more than likely he will.

This is an excert from the first link below (see first site its the very last part of the page)

Many women who are victims of marital rape have great difficulty in defining it as such. The traditional idea that it is impossible for a man to rape his wife and that somehow, in taking our marriage vows we have abdicated any say over our own body and sexuality, basically denied ourselves the right to say 'no', is still prevalent amongst wives as much as amongst their husbands. A wife being raped will often question her right to refuse intercourse with her husband, and while she may realise that legally it now constitutes rape, there are many reasons which may prevent her from perceiving it in such a light.

We prefer to see it possibly as a communication problem (did I make it clear enough that I did not want intercourse tonight), we may see it as an act for which the man is not fully responsible due to his nature (men have a biological need to have sex and if there is a woman next to them in bed when they are in the mood they just cannot help it), we may see it as a misunderstanding (although I told him I didn't want to, maybe I gave him the wrong signals somehow), we may have religious issues which question our right to refuse intercourse (I have got to submit myself to him and accept his will above mine as my Lord and Master).

Basically, as wives being raped by our husbands, we look for every reason, every excuse to deny it is Rape because we do not want to accept the alternative: it is Rape, he is hurting and humiliating us with intent, we can no longer trust him, turn to him in comfort, gain reassurance and protection from his company and our home is no longer safe.

See the sites below - there is some really good information and resourses on them.

Answer 6

Uh **** NO.The only way a guy should be physical with a woman is in self defince.I am pretty sure ur thing is call aggrivated rape

Answer 7

no it isnt right at all if you dont want it then he should respect that and not get physical at all he needs to respect your feelings if he forces him self upon you and you say no it is rape even if you are in a relation ship or if its violence on you you should get out before he gets worse put your foot down

Answer 8

No, never is it right to get physical for any reason. If he needs it that bad give him a paper towel and a Playboy and send him to the bathroom.

Answer 9

You are in a potentially bad relationship. You could try talking to him and telling him your views on the matter but it that does not work it is time to start the leaving process.

Answer 10

Are you having a laugh!
Your a human being not a sex toy, tell him to go the bathroom and sort himself out if your not up for it.
I'd take a cattle prod to his balls!


Not sure where I would get cattle prod from, with me living in city.