I have this friend who I have known for 6 years or so, and I realized I loved her more than a friend about 4 years ago. She was Seeing someone at the time so I never said anything and just wanted her to be happy. Now she lives about 14 hours away from me and she has been single for awhile, and she told me that she loves me. She is in School and I work 2 jobs here. what should I do about this? (if you are a smart *** then dont answer, helpfull answers are appreciated) thanks
2007-07-07 21:00:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
seems like what you have for her is love as this has lasted already 6 years despite the fact that she has been in a relationship with a person other than yourself. but ask yourself this, is your love that strong to make a major move to be near her? you said she is still in school so she might still be living with her family and might not be mature enough to move out. are you willing to go the distance and make the necessary sacrifice to be with her? of course you will never be a hundred percent sure. nobody will be if given the same predicament. whatever decision you make, it could only go 2 ways, bad or good. but as long as you maintain accountabilty for the results of your actions, then trust your gut instinct and do what it dictates. hope this helps.
2007-07-07 21:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your distance is a problem. If you really love her, why don't you visit her, call her or send her an e-mail and try to ask her out. I believe she might be after all in lover also with you. But I am not assuring you that this is really the truth but, like what I've said a while ago, "what if she was also in-love with you and she is only waiting for you to make the first move?"
She might have thought that you did not like her after all because you let the two of them be "HAPPY". . But how sure are you that she was happy? What if she was not, and she longs for you and hopes that someday you will realize that she in love with you?
I bet you definitely need to ask her out, even for once and talk to her casually. And be very brave to tell her that you liked her more than a friend even four years ago. That is the rule of love, I suppose.
2007-07-16 03:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to weigh the options of moving closer. Could you get a better job where she is now? Is is worth moving if nothing more happens between you? Will you kick yourself later if you do not take this chance while you have it? I would suggest looking deep inside and finding out how much she means to you and is she worth the risk. Search deep, be totally honest, and make the next decision. Good luck.
2007-07-16 03:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by booper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 hours is a long drive. However if relocation or airline flights is in the budget....mannnnn u betta get on the horn and express yaself b4 someone else does!!
Cuz if you dont you'll be pissed u didn't make a move....and time waits for no-one...hesitation will eat-chu alive....now get off the internet and go get'cha gurl!!
2007-07-15 05:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know her better by phone or e-mail. Spend some money and see her. Find out what she wants, why she wants you. Is she dependent? Does she have the smarts to make it on her own? Do you?
2007-07-16 00:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by elysian fields 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try forming a long distance relationship..if it works out and u see that shes worth it then make the move but test it out first
2007-07-08 04:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by lucie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just loss my love.... I didn't get a chance to say anything to him before he passed..
So for better or worst tell her, before its to late....I'll never get a chance again.. But you do !! Don't miss it !!!! Connie....
2007-07-16 00:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by Spiritedove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her down for a weekend
2007-07-15 19:20:49 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋