Should i respond to an email from a co workers wife?

Question

I received an email from a coworkers wife that pretty much accused me of trying to steal her man. I have sent him forwards i thought were funny and he had commented about them etc...i have talked to him a few times via email and that is it, nothing i felt flirtatious however this woman has threatened me by saying that she will go to my superior if i continue to have contact with her husband. I do not plan to send him any more emails at all and as far as contact it has and always be at work. I believe you never crap where you eat and would never think of an affair especially with a married man. But i don't know what to do about this, she sent it under his email, claims he left it up and she accidently came across them. She admitted he cheated on his1st wife and she has trust issues. But i am upset about the accusations and the threat against my job. What should i do just let it go & do not email again or should i talk to him. I have enough other problems right now.

Answer 1

If you truly have done nothing wrong then the answer is easy. Send an e-mail to her stating the facts, tell his spouse that your interactions have been professional and that you won't tolerate unfounded accusations. Now here's the tough part, you'll need to BCC (blind carbon copy) your supervisor or boss and your coworker so that everyone knows your position. Go to your boss and explain the situation. If need be, have your IT department retrieve copies of the mail you've sent back and forth to your coworker to prove your innocence. A full head-on diffusion of the situation is the only way to end this problem immediately and decisively. If you continue to hide it from your boss and correspond with your coworker it may only make you look more suspicious. By informing your boss you take away her leverage and with the proof (e-mails) in your hands your honor is intact and you can go on with your life. Whatever you do, do NOT correspond with a jealous, insecure wife. This may appear as an attempt to cover-up questionable actions or at the very least it will fuel the fire. Honesty and openness are the strongest allies an innocent person in this situation can have. Good luck.

Answer 2

Despite everyone else's advice to the contrary, I wouldn't involve your superiors or human resources in this one - because most companies have policies about acceptable computer usage, and most companies discourage if not downright forbid non-work-related use of company equipment. Sending your co-worker forwards does not, unfortunately, fall under work usage. So unless you're very familiar with your company's IT policy, I'd keep this one quiet. I would, however, send a copy of the email to my home address, just in case the work servers got wiped clean in some catastrophe and Mrs. Coworker decides to go crazy and show up at your door or something.

I wouldn't talk to Mrs. Coworker - I would probably bring it up to the coworker, apologize if you've given the wrong impression (even though you bloody well know you haven't) and keep it professional because you do still have to work with this person no matter what their insane spouse seems to think. Unless this coworker is your best friend in the entire world, it would probably be easiest and least painful all around to discontinue your friendly exchanges.

Man... some women are just nuts!!

Answer 3

As a person, in a dating, i am sorry however i simply experience getting concentration from different ladies. Yes I am pathetic and I have got to suppose this validation from different ladies. He is in most cases the equal Will you husband pass extra? It's unattainable for us to inform. Make certain he realises how a lot you're keen on him and the way unacceptable this sort of flirting is (ie secretive emails). Keep a watch on him, and if he strays, kick his as* to the road! If you believe him regardless that, believe that not anything will occur, might be it used to be simply flirting

Answer 4

She sounds unstable. I'd talk to your coworker about it (in person! not through email). Save the email, and decide whether you want to discuss it with your supervisor. The wife can't really get you fired - even if you WERE sleeping with her husband, she'd have to have proof AND the company would have to have a policy against it (most companies don't care if coworkers date, only if supervisor and subordinate do), so her threats are baseless.

And if you want to respond to her, by all means, go for it. She has no right to talk to you that way. Her insecurities do NOT give her freedom to harass, threaten, or intimidate you. That's ridiculous.

Answer 5

She is probably the woman he cheated on his first wife with - they say - once a cheater, always a cheater. She might know first hand.

I would suggest that you do not respond to the email, block his email address so you don't receive any from him.

In other words, at work if you see him say hello, but keep on walking, and just leave it alone.

I am sure you have plenty of other people to forward other emails to - just leave this be, she apparently is extremely jealous and might not be completely there.

Better to be safe than sorry!

Answer 6

I'd send her, not him, an email detailing exactly what you just told us, including the part where you will not send him any more e-mails and that you find it disturbing that she is threatening your job, whether the threat is real or not is irrelevant. I would copy the letter to wife to your co-worker so he knows what his wife is up to.

She sounds like a nutcase, jealous, overprotective, insecure, but if it is no skin of your back to leave it alone, I think it's smart for you to quit the forwarding thing with him. Also, if you don't have her e-mail address, send it to your co-worker, addressed to her, with instructions at the beginning of it for him to please either forward it to her, or print it off and give her a copy. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

i would respond, address it to both of them - assure her you are not doing anything untoward, and that this is nothing but an ordinary collegial relationship and that you treat her husband in the same way as your other work colleagues.

if you have done nothing wrong then she will have nothing to take to your superior, and therefore is just bluffing, trying to keep you away from her man by threats. suggest that the tone of her email is threatening, and while you understand she may not trust her husband, you do not appreciate being threatened and will not respond to future threats from her, but forward her emails directly to her husband and a copy to your superior.

I would also check your company policy on email usage to be sure you are not breaching company rules by forwarding junk mail.

Answer 8

I wouldn't waste my time emailing her back, but I would definitely print it out and show it to her husband, and explain that you cannot correspond with him anymore. Let him deal with her. The sooner the better if your job's at stake.

Some women are just paranoid.....their poor husbands. I have heaps of male penpals....no fooling around, just jokes 'n' stuff. Hubby doesn't mind....he just hates typing!

Answer 9

He's sick of second wife already.. you will probably be his next victim..He's a womaniser and a looser...Don't reply to his emails.You know you have done nothing wrong...Tell her to stop being so insecure and grow up.If she is having trouble with her husband that's her problem, don't get involved.
Good Luck...

Answer 10

no dont bother talking to him or e-mailing him,his wife is feeling threthened for some reason, maybe its not you but her gut is telling her something, so go on and keep contact put your self right in the middle if you like all that drama.