How common is it
2007-07-07 19:56:52 · 11 answers · asked by HARISH B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the same reason as just about every other species of creature on this planet is attracted to members of the opposite sex. The desire to procreate is innate and we human beings are not monogamous by nature.
2007-07-07 20:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't like people trying to rationalize feelings, especially love; not for any sentimental, gushing reasons--it's just a waste of time and effort. I hate hearing about the scientists who come up with names and syndromes.
Love is a very, very impulsive thing; usually unfounded, and very, very passionate. When someone gets married, only to later feel attracted to someone else, they either [a] made a hasty decision or [b] found someone they could contentedly make a life with and chose to stop searching there.
There's a quote somewhere that goes, "You shouldn't settle for someone you can live with - but instead wait for the one person you can't live without." I don't know who said that or where it came from, but it somewhat makes all the sense in the world.
I'm sure that finding love in someone else after marriage is very common; giving vows isn't as special or binding as it used to be, for some people. They think, "Well, if it's a wrong decision, I can just get a divorce", so of COURSE they'll be oh-so-dedicated when their relationship starts spiraling downwards. And saying, "I do" doesn't seal your heart; it's simply a pronouncement that you belong to someone--and that that's the way it will be, "until death do you part".
Ahh, then again, I guess I wouldn't know...
~Taisi
2007-07-07 20:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by Taisi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction doesn't stop because you promise to love someone forever, and put a ring on your finger. Just because you are married to someone, doesn't mean you can't find the beauty in others (be it physical, or their personality).
The trick is to not marry someone unless you can make the commitment and are absolutely sure that the person you are marrying is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. That way, it doesn't matter how beautiful someone else appears, you still not tempted to cheat because you know you've got a good thing.
Some people will blame weak-willed individuals for cheating, but I think it's equally the responsiblity of the people getting married, and they owe it to each other, to make sute they are really 100% sure about joining together. You have to realize there will be temptation...lots of it. If you don't think the person you're marrying will keep you both happy, then maybe you shouldn't get married.
2007-07-07 20:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by spudmunkey 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is so common!!!
Just because your married your attraction to the opposite sex does not go away!!
You just have to be mature enough to be married and handle those kind of attractions.
For Example, I am typically more attracted to Men with darker skin. My husband is as white as they come. I still look at darker sinned men and my husband knows it. My husband prefers girls with curly hair and green eyes. My hair can't hold a curl for the life of me and I have dark brown eyes!!
We don't act on these attractions but they are there!! You can't help it!! And for anyone to say they lost all attraction to people when they got married - they're lying to you!!
2007-07-07 20:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
after you marry even though you may do it for all the right reason, your given trials,these trials are to test your faith fullness and commitment to someone, they can either make you or break you, they will make you a better husband or wife or a weak vessel, you can act on them or walk away, when you get married and these emotions come into play your actions are what makes you the person that your married spouse loves, in these times go back and love your spouse more.. oh and its not really attraction its just lust ..
2007-07-07 20:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by yukd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called basic animal attraction....body chemistry....passionate desire!
We might go through life never experiencing it.....or we may find it after we're happily married. We have no control over it.....it's way too strong! Whether we let it control us or not is our own decision.
2007-07-07 21:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Chatterbox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you get married don't mean you become blind. But, people shouldn't act on their attraction. I'm pretty sure my husband sees attractive women every day. But to try to get to know them, would be out of line.
2007-07-07 20:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well me answer to this question is the might see something in that person that they don't see in you which don't make it right but hey they still do it and it is very common for your spouse to be attracted to another male/female
2007-07-07 20:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by diamond princess 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We're animals deep down. Have you ever seen another animal be monogamus? Nope. Look at dogs, for example, they'll screw anything that walks.
2007-07-07 19:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
well dont u like the latest copmuters even though u have the older version...same principle...
2007-07-07 20:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by razmatttaz... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋