This guy was my first love. We had an awesome love affair in highschool - I mean absolutely cosmic. I'm talking soul to soul love here. We were young and immature and we broke up . I moved on , married another man, he married another woman. My marriage ended last year and 2 months ago I ran into my first love again. We began talking and now he says he's still in love with me - just the same as in highschool - he has loved me all of these years. Truth is I have loved him too. He says he needs a little time to get out of his marriage the RIGHT way so that we can be together. We have agreed that we are not having sex until he is out of his marriage. Am I a fool to wait for him? He calls me all day long - says he just needs to hear my voice. I am so scared that he's going to get caught. What should I do? I feel so bad for his wife.
2007-07-07 19:26:31 · 15 answers · asked by rockngirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
True love......Very few people feel that.... Soul mates that met in high school, A very hard combination to look past. But we try: We get married hoping to feel that ever lasting love that wraps around your heart, never quite feeling it the way he made you feel. Hoping secretly that his marriage will end like your own. One day it does no regrets, there was love in those marriages. But nothing like the oneness that your first love can make you feel. I do believe we have stepped into the same size shoes. exception is: he is going to be free and turn his entirety over to you. Nobody is hurting. Nobody is sneaking. Nobody is committing adultery. Just the time it takes to go back in time. More maturely. Good for you. Hang in there.Do wait to have sex-then you can make love for eternity-what a cosmic concept...... Hold your head up. .. be pleased. You have found what very, very few people will ever find. A Love so deep it hurts. Thank You for being that one person to admit they are human. To think completely with your heart is a very rare occasion. I'll wish you well-You wish me well...,and we'll wish others to feel just a glimpse of what a true soul mate is.
2007-07-07 23:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by rockin r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got a lot of nerve to say you feel sorry for his wife. YOU AND ONLY YOU are the reason he is thinking about leaving his wife.Sure you would like to think he was going to leave her anyway and that he has been unhappy in his marriage because he has never gotten you off his mind. I wish i had a dollar for every time a man has told a woman that same old story. All it is with you is unfinished business nothing more then that and as soon as he gets what he wants from you he will run back to his wife and leave you wondering what the hell happened.
2007-07-07 19:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean..he is thinking of getting out of the marriage bcuz of you? it would have sounded better if he had that in mind even before meeting you again. duh! Old flame rekindling ha? If there are kids involved (his), better distance yourself to give him a lot of space & time for immersion. He may be having troubles with his marriage alright but not at all reason to walk out only bcuz he chance upon an old flame. And do not come lurking & pour him all the loving thoughts for he sure will be mislead. Give him some encouragement instead. It will hurt but in this way you can really test whether he has firm decision about starting all over again with you. You know humans when being pushed & pressured to move into something that they aren’t really emotionally & mentally ready will end up carrying the excess baggages & vent it into the new relationship. Good for you if you have so much love for each other to overcome them but the guilt feelings never give us a good sleep. You have to make sure that you tried to help by saving his marriage instead of breaking it so that if alls well – it means its not meant for you to be back in his loving arms. If he still chooses you – you know in your heart that you did not tolerate him walking out but rather it was his firm decision to do so.
2007-07-07 20:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must be the age. I was born in 68 and went to a school reunion not long ago. I had feelings for a girl I went out with in highschool and she had broken up with her husband and I was married. To cut a long story short it is good in theory but Iwas lucky I did not get tempted and completely f*ck my life and my families up. I am still happily married.
2007-07-07 19:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by spils 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So just don't be so stupid, girl. Break off all contact. Just picture yourself being the wife in this situation....
By the way, someone posting a few pages ahead is looking for you... there's a question asking about where you are....
2007-07-08 01:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be committing adultery with him. Even if he divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful to him and has committed adultery. If you want to know God's laws about marriage and divorce, read the Holy Bible. Best to be informed when it comes to the fate of your soul.
2007-07-07 19:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you won't be taking his calls until he's divorced. He'll either sh*t or get off the pot. If he'll cheat on her (and this is cheating) he'll cheat on you. What is your definition of love? Tell him to mail you a copy of his divorce papers and you'll call him with your new number. Good luck :)
2007-07-07 20:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its funny something similar happend to me but i was the one who was dating someone ealse i ask her to wait for me so i can do it right just like he told you. it took me a few weeks to get away from her without hurting her..... the problem was she couldnt wait and i ended without either of them! so i dont know how long you can wait . but you also shouldnt wait that long. in my case i really did leave my girlfriend at the time but i dont know if he is going to do that or if he is just saying it to get under your pants! gooood luck!
2007-07-07 19:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Gusss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brain never left highschool
2007-07-07 19:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel bad for his wife? So bad that you're on YA telling us how he's your soulmate that you talk to him every day?
2007-07-07 19:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋