I'm alone because my almost 30 year old husband is at my 23 year old neighbors drinking it up and having a good time. We were supposed to have a 'date night' tonight and he left me at home with a friend to go watch the UFC match and the babysitter called to have the kids picked up because her husband wanted to watch the fight too. Now it is 2 am and I am still alone. Sounds like great fun huh?
2007-07-07 18:58:07 · 18 answers · asked by jhardinmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd be pissed! For sure!
2007-07-07 19:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by producergirl347 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you're referring to my house, it's his 25 year old friends. I'm the one that's 23 and I was with you. I came home to an empty house last night.. they had already left when I got there. Secondly, my husband got home at 5:30 this morning after going to some guys house that I have never met, and then woke me up to tell me to scoot over so he could lay down. Can you beat that? Huh huh huh??? =)
2007-07-08 19:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is where i usually find women that end up cheating with me. ESPECIALLY when he's not at all attentive to you or your happiness. No romance, and a fight is more important because, "she'll be there tomorrow. We can go out tomorrow" is his thinking. Unfortunately, LOTS of men think this way. HIS happiness 1st. It builds up until you're fed up and want YOUR happiness 1st. Right around the time the kids are in school all day and done need your attention. Commonly in middle aged marriages or when the male is at middle age.
2007-07-08 02:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by atoughlife2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting to see a lot of answers...some people are very pat about it-Hey, it's all your fault you chose him! or Hey, go cheat on him....or whatever! Don't feel bad though...you chose your husband because you guys loved each other and it's very difficult to make decisions about difficult things....you may have posted your question because you were pissed, or sad, or from whatever emotion-but you were really feeling hurt. Maybe after things aren't so heated and have cooled down a bit, you can talk to him and clarify for him that you find that behavior unacceptable and hurtful...maybe he won't care or won't change but you will have expressed how you felt/thought and then can make other decisions from there...
2007-07-08 11:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by A L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put down the tissue box and be more assertive. Your husband should honor his promises to you and if not, you need to speak to him about it. Compromise on a schedule for activities that includes his vicarious hobby of watching wrestling. Find something to do that you equally enjoy during those times and meet the guy halfway. Tonight, go to bed. The children will need you in the morning.
2007-07-08 02:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you his wife or the nanny? If a guy gives up a date night with his wife and go drinking with his friends instead, then there are some serious issues that need to be discussed, with YOU doing most of the talking. He is not respecting you at all on this.
2007-07-08 03:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have friends other than eachother, dont be needy. Men need time with other men as do women with other women or other adults. Relax be easy, if this isnt happening every day then i dont see where the problems is but if you are one of those then here we go, - dont nag dont complain dont wait till you are arguing or until it happens again, confront hubby and tell him but dont place blame about what and how you are feeling hes not a mind reader.
2007-07-08 02:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot more nights like this one coming your way get use to it or give him a taste of his own medicine. If i were you i would nip it in the bud right now maybe next time he will think twice before leaving you alone.
2007-07-08 02:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels you're not interested in the game so he went alone. Even if you're not interested you should have gone with him, just to be with him and then, again, he's turning 30 very shortly, so he's trying to be that young college dude again!
2007-07-08 02:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by JESSICA G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common tonight. Contact me, I have ways of resolving loneliness. If you feel guilty after an hour, live with it. If you don't, call me back next week. Good luck.
2007-07-08 02:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Steve L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You live in HARDIN Vally Me too come on over we'll have popcorn... When he comes home ...what a shock when you r not there
2007-07-08 02:09:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋