I just moved here and was super excited about my first home. I got the neighbor next door they are SUPER NOSY all the time, try to control me and my life just because I am NEW here. They even told me like that. When I plant a tree for instance they would come out inspect the area and so on. They dumped trash on my drive way couple of times, reported me to a county when I had some home improvement going and grass was bit tall on my back yard. What's up with these people??? and they are now trying to group up with the people across street I can hear them gossiping pointing finger at me. I have done NOTHING wrong, I just want to live here peace and quiet. I am from Japan, the neighborhood is old and red necky a bit. These people has lived here for 20 some years, they think they owns the area or something. I a so stressed out. What can I do ?
2007-07-07 18:06:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
i'm sorry i don't think there's much you can do. Unless they're threatening you with violence. That would be a police matter. In which case it is good to call the police , that way they'll come out & you can at least file a report, that'll keep a written record of things.
so if in the future you are ever in a courtroom w/ them, you can show the judge the past issues.
as far as grass being too tall, unless you're in a homeowner's assoc. where there are CC&R's *rules & regulations* saying that grass can't be a certain height or needs to be cut regularly, you can tell them to kiss your buttocks.
as far as your home improvements & them meddling with your county, as long as you are doing improvements w/ required permits, you're OK.
it sounds like you got bad luck w/ the neighbors who have nothing better to do then to piss you off on every little thing.
just keep records, audio or video record happenings. it's not like a restraining order is really going to do you any good.
good luck to you
2007-07-07 18:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. All you can do is mind your own business and stay away from them. Try to be friendly to your other neighbors and hope for some friends that will give you some relief. Some people are so small and stuck in their ways that they don't appreciate the differences in people. You probably challenge everything that makes them feel safe. There is no cure for prejudice but understanding and that can take a long time, if ever. Be sure you follow all the laws and building codes cause they are going to be in your face forever. All you can do is hope if they are old. My advice probably wouldn't be good because I am a confronter so all I will say is they would NOT be inspecting anything on my property. And a second thought, they may not be prejudiced. They could just be pains in the *ss. By getting to know your other neighbors, you could find that out. If they are giving you a hassle, they have given others a hassle. Try getting to know the people on the other side of them. They have got to be tired of them. Wish you happiness and peace. . .
2007-07-07 19:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez I'm sorry to hear about that. The neighbors might be a bit racist. Do you live in a gated community? I'm not sure what state you're in but you should definitely consider moving to Florida. We don't handle racism to well down here (I mean Miami-Dade County & Broward County) I can't speak for Tallahassee & all the other bumpkin Cities & counties we have.
There's not really much you can do except document the incidents. I would suggest you call the police on them if they are harassing you. The police might not be able to do much because they're not really breaking any laws. Like you said they have been living in the neighborhood for over 20 yrs & if they don't want you living there then they might make it impossible for you. I really don't want to suggest that you move out because I really think you should man-up & ask them what their problem is. Some people are not confrontational so I totally understand. I wish you the best.
Good Luck!
2007-07-07 18:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy_305 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't know better, I'd say you'd moved into my old house. I had to move because of the crazy redneck neighbors. The people called the city about my grass, had my cat picked up and euthanized and even took it upon themselves to put cement in my drain pipe because the rain water was eroding the edge of their driveway..They even went so far as to plant a rosebush over my pipe to prevent me from accessing it to remove the cement .Eventually, it got to be too much and I packed and moved.
2007-07-07 18:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Grace A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have neighbors just like this one. Moving away will not help, you may end up with a worse one. Just do your best to go about life and ignore them. If they speak directly to you simple say "Please do not talk to me" and keep on doing whatever you were doing. If they talk about you or report you for whatever you are doing just try to ignore them. If they find that they cannot bother you they will most likely leave you alone.
2007-07-08 00:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by ebosgramma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This bad, look like, it's not only one neighbor, this is a neighborhood like this. Only one think you can do, sell the house and move out, let another red neck move in and let them kill each other. Do this A.S.A.P. before they destroy your life, if you can't sell, than rented to somebody, and next time look who is your neighbor. Very sorry, and Good Luck!
2007-07-07 18:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by reality 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may need more time adjusting to the big change than you. You moved into their comfort zone and now they have to adjust to change. That still does not give them the right to be disrespectfull. It sounds like they are trying to get your attention. If you want to really annoy them I would suggest ignoring them. But don't let them get to you. That's when you get "stressed out". Hang in there and good luck.
2007-07-07 18:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by shamrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation last year. Things got out of control, and now I am a felon on probation. I finally snapped when the neighbor was hitting his girlfriend in their yard. I went over to scare him with a knife. It was a mistake, his girlfriend said he hadn't hit her. She was the one who went to testify against me. I was going to college to be a history professor. My life is basically in shambles. Just ignore them, and call the police every chance you get. Never act out.
2007-07-07 18:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are from japan they are being racist so play the race card. see if there are any minority organisations you can be included in to go after the neighbor. Before you act be kinda sure you are legal to do it. each time he reports you the county or police get a copy of the report. this will help in you go to court or are ordered to court to show the neighbor is trying to harrass you and finally warn him you will sue him for racism and harrassment...that slows down any red blooded american
2007-07-07 18:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by George L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry to say but you need to be sassy right back to them don't let them walk all over you.If they think your not going to say anything then they are going to keep doing it.I would also put up a privacy fence if they do anything like throwing trash in the driveway call the cops.They need to grow up.
2007-07-07 18:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by kittens 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋