The modern idea of marriage and Western culture dictates one man for one woman for life. However, in the pagan past men tended to sustain more than one woman. Also the divorce rate seems to signal a flaw in the standard rule.
Would it be better for a man to have a secret affair and keep his family together (i.e. "cheat") or should he break his family apart in order to satiate his desires (acceptable in todays culture through divorce)?
2007-07-07 17:39:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As we grow older and mature, we find there is no one-size fits all answer for any question such as this. There is the usual expectation that one's marriage is sacred and holy and not to be corrupted with adultery. However there are rare circumstances where individuals my have a long-standing marriage and not want to destroy that relationship, family, etc. For example the spouse may have needs of financial and emotional support that the other feels are best not withdrawn. However there may be physical reasons of health or distance that preclude an intimate relationship with that spouse. If one continues the emotional and financial support of the family member, and conducts a discrete affair that never infringes upon the marital relationship, it may have some value in sustaining the morale of the supportive individual and keeping them functioning in an emotional or physical way that the marriage cannot. I see a very gray area, but would not recommend it for most normal married people.
2007-07-07 17:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Booger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think by any means cheating is better than breaking up a family, I have cheated and been cheated on and its not pretty karma is a real b**** its better to be even if with someone else or by yourself whatever but not bittering up your whole family. Cheating never stays a secret your bound to slip sometime and when it does happen it will just make things way worse
2007-07-07 18:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by J B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating carries with it the whole issue of secrecy and lying - so even if the family isn't "broken apart" by a divorce, it's still going to be harmed (even if it's not obvious.)
My first thought would be, if the marraige isn't meeting the needs of the people involved, try to change it so that it can - a lot of problems come up because people don't talk about their needs/desires, and so sneak around with their secrets instead of being open about them. Maybe the people can get what they need at home; maybe folks experiment with polyamory; maybe they come up with something altogether different. ::shrugs:: Can't hurt to try.
2007-07-10 07:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by ArcadianStormcrow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should not commit adultery. He must remember his wedding vows and honor them. He must let his own wife intoxicate him. He must run far away from lusting after other women. Adultery is a sin and comes with dire consequences. You have free will to commit the sin, but you can not change the consequences for this evil behavior. If it has to be done in secret it is wrong. You don't have to hide what is right.
He cannot divorce his wife unless she has committed adultery.
Wives tend to find out about secret affairs and it can be fatal for the lying, cheating dog husband and his ho.
God also sees everything done in secret.
2007-07-07 17:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i became divorced on the age of fifty after being in an abusive marriage for 25 years. My ex have been given ill with maximum cancers some months after our divorce became very final. He kicked the bucket no longer long after he became clinically determined. i became remarried returned on the age of fifty 4. do no longer provide up on finding love. provide your self time and issues would be extra beneficial to find a stable guy.
2016-09-29 07:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by kottwitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "kaja". I would tell my husband just to get lost if he wants to cheat. It is really for the man's selfish benefit to have his family and also cheat if he wants, not really for the non "broken home" . What a lame justification to cheat and still think you have the right to be married.
2007-07-07 18:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would simply be better if people could practice honesty to themselves and anyone around them without facing punishment.
2007-07-07 17:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is never okay
i'd rather my husband divorce me, than to find out he cheated on me.
2007-07-07 17:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adultry is a sin end of story it is better to divorce than go to hell
2007-07-07 17:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both will get you a one way ticket to Hell.
2007-07-07 17:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋