balance between mom & wife?

Question

my mom earns more than me she is on government job and she always hesitates my wife. she loves me & my wife vey much but i just cant understand what problem she had. my mom always find fault in her. we both are newly married and of same age (21). we dont have much experience of married life.
i know my wife is sometimes wrong but i promise my mom with time she will care for resposibilities. but always problem arised. i dont want to argue with my mom . what should i do?

Answer 1

grow a set and stand up to your mom.

Answer 2

I hope you are a man and not a mouse. Your mother doesn’t like your wife? Well, that’s her problem, not yours... do you think, and that this sounds cruel? But it isn’t cruel at all - it’s reality. You had an arranged marriage and you are one of the lucky guys to be married with a loving wife... could be something totally different you know. Just imagine being married with somebody who doesn’t stand or accept you... what kind of life and future would be yours then??? Your mom says that she is dull?? Hmmm... Without any offence, but I think your mothers´ behaviour is dull and she clearly shows that she doesn’t respect others. She says that your wife is from a poor family?? For heavens sake, didn’t she know this before?? I reckon, that it’s the same unpleasant story as always: The dowry matter... maybe your mother is just greedy??? (So, why don’t you kill your wife and keep the dowry and your mom can look for a better one for you??? --- I hope you understand that this is a cruel and satiric joke!!!) Imagine if your wife was of a cold-hearted character and wouldn’t care for her parents and family? Would you like to be married with somebody like this??? I hope not... somebody who doesn’t give a damn for his family isn’t a mentally healthy person. Your wife shows, that she has a good heart, she cares for her family, as well as she will care for you and her children... don’t forget this!! You are a married man now; a husband and responsibilities have changed a lot. Your family (mother, father, brothers, sisters, etc) won’t occupy any longer the first place in your life. Your wife and your future children - YOUR OWN FAMILY, must occupy the first place in your life. Treat your woman right, dude, because otherwise the sweetest and nicest woman gets fed up and leaves you. If I were your wife and I would know, what my mother in law says about me and my family I would tell you, that you will have to choose... and yes, I am a person with a very big heart, but I don’t stand people who want to abuse of my good character. Don’t you feel ashamed by posting this here?? You should know the answer by yourself. Talk clear with your mother and tell her the possible consequences of her ugly and nasty behaviour. You can tell her, that you won’t tolerate any bad word more about your wife. Tell her, that you love her as a mother, but if she goes on acting like that, she won’t give you no choice, as you will stand a 100% by your woman. Believe me, mothers can be selfish and jealous... and yours acts exactly this way. By the way, fathers can be jealous also... mine was very, very jealous, as I always was his little, sweet girl............ Balance? The only balance I see is that you have to speak clear, like a man does and don’t beg like a little boy would...

Answer 3

Stand up for your wife. She is one with you now and it is your responsibility to protect her and honor her. Some mom's don't think any gal is good enough for her precious son. Some mom's think the son could have done better and constantly criticize the wife. The son has to put a stop to mom putting the wife down, he should not tolerate this behavior from his mother. She has to respect her son's choice for a wife, she should be helping the new wife not bad mouthing her.

Answer 4

Tell your mom that's your wife and you don't want her to keep finding fault with her. Your wife is going to start hating your mom, if she doesn't already and then you are going to have problems. Your wife comes first now and mom takes a back seat. So tell your mom she needs to get with it.

Answer 5

You have 2 different relationships here. One with your mom, and one with your wife. You can try to set your mom straight, and hope that she accepts your wife for who she is. And request that she please try to stay out of your married life. OR your marriage will NOT stand a chance. Do you have a dad? Perhaps he can help in this situation.

Answer 6

I think you should talk to your mom. See what really bothering her about your wife!?! I think personally, she is mad because you two got married real early. You guys didn't even get to really enjoy your lives. She probably think you jumped into this marriage a little too fast. No matter what, stay by your wife side. Talk to your mother.

Answer 7

It is time for you to tell mommy to butt out of your life your married and if she cannot get use to the idea then she can see less and less of you and your wife. Stop being such a wimp stand up to mommy and tell her that you love your wife and if need be you will stop communication with her if she doesn't start acting her age.

Answer 8

I don't mean any disrespect,but your mom need to back the --- up? see because you are married now and she need to let you and your wife get y'all marriage together by y'all self with no outside help that is where the problem comes in at with others telling you and your wife what need to be done but it is really up to you and your wife to get things in your marriage laid out like you and she wants it because it is yours and hers right

Answer 9

Support your wife.Make ur mom realise that u n ur wife are one and the same,and u r the only one 4 ur wife

Answer 10

Learn to Balance your Relationships!!

Answer 11

why are you still living with your mother when you are married..

If you are not living with your mother...tell your mother to stay out of your personal and that you will deal will your wife..