the one you have been hurt by over the years and have a family with or the new man who you are falling head over heals in love with?
2007-07-07 17:17:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the new one.
if the other one hurt you so many times, why is it worth it?
it's better for your family, if you are a happier person, even if that means their parents are divorced.
2007-07-07 17:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one should be constantly hurt by their significant other even though I know it happens all the time. If you are being hurt then the children will eventually hurt because it will soon affect them. Though your children come first always, you also need to be happy to continue to make a good life for them. The choice should be easy. Go with the person that makes you happy. But - he must accept your children and know that with the two of you their lives come first.
2007-07-08 01:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by mikemja316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should choose the man that is love with you. You don't need to through that drama with the man that hurted you in the past. If you keep going back to him, he will think you like getting hurt. You rather get with someone who loves you for you!
2007-07-08 00:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mesha 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two issues that should not be related. Problems with your husband and lust for your new boyfriend.
Once you have kids, it is the interest of the kids that come first. You have to make nice-nice with your husband, make it work until the kids are out of the house. However, if he violates his vows, or you violate yours, then it is divorce court. The family is broken.
As for the new guy, it should not come into the picture unless you don't want to see your kids.
2007-07-08 00:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kitiany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one of them. Get your divorce from the man who has been hurting you first. Time will tell about the one who you are falling for. Your priority should be your children.
2007-07-08 00:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get carried away w/ the light in this subjet... You can't chase in crazy dreams but sometimes they r ment...to be ... When i see him standing at the door I've realized how he hurt me and yes we were married .... Sometimes you need to catch that feather flying high and go for a new love that you can get carried away.... one that you can fall head overheels .....
2007-07-08 00:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah who do you choose the family or lust... Think of your kids they might never wanna see you again cuz the mom is a hoe;(no offense) your children will be humiliated and ashamed of their aduterus mother........... You already said Ido so DO IT!!
2007-07-08 00:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell you what to do, but weight the options realistically, but remember the new guy always seems better because hes new and the fantasy is still new and hes still putting his best foot forward ........do whats best for you and makes you happy but be realistic, reality is not always sexy or romantic....think it over.....
2007-07-08 00:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay with the vows and the children. Cut off the relationship you are starting or thinking of starting... that's just sick....
2007-07-08 08:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always do whats best for the kids.
sometimes it's not always whats best for you, but for them. The decision is totally up to you, but make sure it's always best for your children.
2007-07-08 00:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by gabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋