My husband and I just separated after almost 2 yrs of marriage. He still wants to have his cake and eat it too. I feel that he is acting single already and out with other women. I don't know if he as cheated yet, but all evidence points to it. He says no
2007-07-07 17:12:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you're getting divorced - its not cheating, by the way.
and it's up to you whether or not you two still decided to do the horizontal mambo. if that was me, i'd say no, but hey, i don't know how horny you get.
2007-07-07 17:24:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. We always believe what we want to believe no matter what the other person says. If you are separated then it's time for you to get back into the playing field and stop feeling guilty about the things you do. remember you re on your own now and nothing can stand in your way.
Stop sleeping with your ex. There's a whole world waiting out there so go ahead and explore.
And one last thing leave your ex be. He's his own man.
2007-07-11 05:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Sleeping with your soon to be ex is most definately not a good idea. He may have moved on, but as long as you are sleeping with him, you never will and the actual divorce will be more painful and filled with drama.
He is indeed trying to have his cake and eat it, too. If he's coming to you for sex, its likely that he struck out with someone else. Send him on his way and don't give him the time of day.
2007-07-08 00:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are separated then it's not cheating. It just sounds like he has moved on and you haven't. You shouldn't sleep with him anymore. You guys aren't together and are planning on a divorce so you don't have any obligations to sleep with him. It's time to start moving on and get your life started. He has.
2007-07-08 00:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he would say no because if he says yes, maybe you won't see him or sleep with him. It's not worth it though to be going to the doctor to get tested every few months...or all of the drama if a child is involved.
2007-07-08 11:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by A L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know women that have slept with the ex. When I questioned them about it, they said "You don't know what it's like being single." In other words, the woman wanted sex and he was available and they didn't have anyone else. Personally, when I left my ex. I found someone else. I would rather have sex with someone I liked. If I still liked my ex, he wouldn't be my ex.
So to answer your question, if you want to have sex with your ex, go right ahead. If he is the one who wants sex and is pressuring you and you are not interested, introduce him to his right hand.
2007-07-08 00:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dorthy_Gail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NOT sleep with your husband if you are getting a divorce.
Have you ever heard of the term "misleading"? Wouldn't you be misleading him if you slept with him when he and you are still divorcing?
2007-07-08 00:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sleeping with him at this point would just add complications to an already difficult time. not to mention the fact that even though he says he hasn't slept with anyone, he might be lying. you wouldn't want to pick up any std's he's brought home. let him use his hand if he wants it that bad!
2007-07-08 00:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult, if you want to sleep with him, there is no law that says you can't. BUT if you think he's already dating and/or sleeping with other women, protect yourself from STDs.
2007-07-08 00:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to? All you would need right now is to get pregnant, right.... Plus all the drama about STDs, etc....
2007-07-08 08:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋