2007-07-07 16:52:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
People create drama to draw attention to themselves. They have issues with confidence and are willing to get attention anyway they can. It is really sad because they don't really understand that they lose more than they gain. People lose respect for them and push ignore on the cell when there number comes up. I think that some people are just trying to reach out, but it is important not to be an enabler. I bring it to people's attention in a nice way because not everyone likes to be stressed out. Most of the things they are stressed about is not really that big of deal. I think once a person is all about drama, it is hard for them to break out of that mode. As long as they are the center of attention then they won't stop.
2007-07-07 17:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some situations, like at work, you can't ignore them. So analyze the situation, address what actually must be dealt with, and do so without further comment. People who create drama may be bored, intelligent, needy, weak and much more, or all of it.
This starts when a child believes he or she has not gotten the attention they deserve. So they find a way to get the attention they want, usually causing some kind of fuss that gets their parents attention right away. Now they know that works, so the next time they want attention, they know just what to do. Their parents are easily trained.
Assuming, if I may, that you are now dealing with an adult, or teen, you've got a lot of training to undo -a daunting task. This will try your patience, but ignore any part of the bad behavior you can, keeping safety in mind. You won't change their behavior completely, but they will begin looking for a way to get your attention that works. Just keep encouraging the behaviors you like, and ignoring the ones you don't. For more information, pick up some psychology books about "behaviorism."
2007-07-07 17:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do this for attention. The best way to deal with them is to not over respond to their drama. Don't allow them to have the spotlight all of the time. Down size their situations like it's not that big a deal and tell them that everything always works out in the end anyway and change the subject.
2007-07-07 17:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I try to stay away. I easily get sucked in, trying to "help". No advice helps. If I can't find a good hiding place, I'll just listen sympathetically and not encourage it. Usually, "hmmmm" is a good answer. If they ask for advice or opinion, I say, "I don't know what to say, that's a tough one."
I'm glad you can recognize it when it happens. Not everyone does.
2007-07-07 17:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by blas 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely refuse to engage. It is most important to the person acting out that you respond to this drama. When there is no one to jump in and join the circus, it will eventually go away. (Sometimes it takes a REAL long time...)
2007-07-07 16:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by t. 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You learn to accept the fact that you can not control, help, or convince others to change...
people just are..
take it or leave it.
2007-07-07 17:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by astutewoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Create even more to make it even more apparent that drama doesn't work very well at all.
2007-07-07 16:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
After awhile it gets sickening and I just laugh and leave.
2007-07-07 16:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Willowjac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try and avoid them. I think they do it for the attention.
2007-07-07 16:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by HereIGoAgain 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ignore then and if that doesnt work just confront them about their "problem"
hahaha
2007-07-07 17:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by haleysheeeit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋