he said he had a realization that he had been wrong he keeps apologizing and says he wants to be a part of my sons life and mine, and help out in any way possible, i know its my decision, but i dont know if i can trust anything that comes out of his mouth. please help with some advie on what i should do!
2007-07-07 16:40:47 · 6 answers · asked by sneaky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its great that he wants to be apart of his son's life and yours but if you cant trust him then let him be apart of his son's life and do what he said he would by helping out, but just because you have a kid with him doesn't mean you have to be in a romantic relationship with him, some people are better off not in a relationship and if you don't have any trust then it wont work, if you do want a relationship with him then let him build back the trust slowly based on his actions and not his words and just take things a day at a time...
2007-07-08 08:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We never have a way of knowing what to do in these situations. we want to do the right thing but which way do we go. I don't know what your ex did, but it sounds like you have some real issues with him. Do you still have feelings for him? or is it just because of the child involved? Either way, tell him that you might want to seek counseling together before you make that decision, because if he loves you, he will do it! Maybe give him a sort of "trial" period so you can see if things will change or not. If you don't think you can ever get past the trust issues or not though, than the relationship is probably not worth it.
2007-07-07 23:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by swtme810 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times has this man left and come back to "apologize for his wrong" ?
You say you do not know if you can trust him.
Maybe you should go with your gut instinct and tell him that you and your son need a stable man in your lives...... not one who comes and goes when ever life becomes a challenge for him.
If he is willing to talk, communication is a step....but, take it slow and don't move him in your home, right away.....see if he is honestly wants to be a mentoring father figure in your child's life and a supportive stable partner in your life.
Go from that point, see how he reacts.
You do not want a fly by night man, who comes and goes at any immature whim.....or..... someone who leaves to sow his wild oats with another woman, just to come back when the new wares off or she kicks him to the curb.
Good Luck and take care.
2007-07-08 00:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by cuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start again like you were getting to know each other, Also get into couples counseling to clear things up.
2007-07-08 00:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first you have to specify why you left him in the first place and then I give ya some bit of advice.
2007-07-07 23:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by obviously 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you let him pork you, deal with it.
2007-07-07 23:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋